Recently, I wrote about an app called Tea, which lets women anonymously share their experiences with dates.
To access this women-only platform, you need to apply and verify your identity. I was told my application would be reviewed shortly, but I actually waited a few weeks. Then, out of nowhere, just hours after I submitted my details, I was approved.
Curiosity got the best of me, and I couldn’t resist exploring the app. What I stumbled upon was a whirlwind of scandalous stories—think Jerry Springer level drama, but real.
One post revealed a woman’s distress over her husband, who was supposedly dating others. “Someone found my email and sent me screenshots of my husband on a dating app,” she wrote. That’s a tough pill to swallow.
Another account accused a local 26-year-old of being a porn addict, complete with photos and his social media links. The writer claimed, “He follows multiple only fans models and even visits questionable massage parlors.”
Some posts skirt around privacy, lacking names or faces but still detailing people’s experiences. An influencer was labeled “controlling” for what seemed to be common relationship behaviors. Others compared exes’ performance, with comments about size and endurance that are… a bit too personal, perhaps.
A 39-year-old man mentioned that this behavior is long-standing, suggesting he juggles multiple relationships while making others feel exclusive. It’s strange how folks can get drawn into that kind of cycle.
Another user warned about a guy who had been to jail for illegal possession of ghost guns. “Just Google his name,” she urged, highlighting how easy it is to gather information nowadays.
Some comments seemed trivial, like a complaint about someone talking too much before a date.
One user shared about a 21-year-old man, saying, “He acts like he’s more than he is,” which made me chuckle.
There are also advice-seeking posts where women ponder whether a porn addict can change or if it’s okay to stay in touch with someone who isn’t communicative.
A shocking inquiry came from a 20-year-old talking to a 33-year-old: “He’s bored, should I move on?” The replies were almost unanimously supportive in urging her to cut ties.
The app claims to assist with background checks and criminal history searches, though I faced some trouble loading those features.
Scrolling through the app, you encounter numerous male profiles. According to media lawyer Robert Ross, legal protections under Section 230 make it tough to hold these anonymous users accountable for defamatory claims.
“You can say what you want, but unless someone knows your true identity, they can’t really take legal action,” he explained, which might explain why anonymity persists.
It seems that women using this app will continue to share their stories, spilling the tea, as it were.
