Dear Abby: I typically send emails to my sister, but last month I was surprised when her daughter, whom I don’t particularly like, responded to one of my messages instead of her. It was just some casual info, nothing important or embarrassing, but I’m really annoyed that my sister’s daughter replied. Now, everything feels out of proportion, and it’s hard to have a real conversation with my sister. Am I overreacting? — Florida Private Brother
Dear brother: It does seem odd that your niece would answer her mother’s emails without being prompted. Maybe your sister felt the need to protect her daughter? I suggest you call your sister to talk about this. If you think you might have overreacted, an apology could help, but remember that your messages might not be as private as you think. It might be best to have sensitive conversations in person.
Dear Abby: My husband and I have completely different styles when it comes to holiday gifts. I enjoy picking up thoughtful items throughout the year, aiming to figure out who would appreciate them in December. He, however, finds this approach ridiculous and believes you should shop with someone specific in mind, preferably just before giving the gift.
What’s frustrating is that he never actually puts in the effort to find meaningful gifts for our family. The burden always falls on me, and honestly, I don’t have the time or patience for his way. Am I being impractical, or is it fine for me to buy gifts in advance as long as they’re suitable? — Not cheerful in the Midwest
Dear Not Mary: I don’t agree with your husband’s viewpoint. You’re doing your holiday shopping in a way that works for you. If he insists on doing it differently, perhaps he should take over that responsibility. You can relax and accept his approach, but if his gifts end up being unsuitable, that falls on him.
Dear Abby: I used to share too much and realized I had a problem, so I sought therapy. Now, when I bump into former neighbors or coworkers with whom I overshared, they sometimes seem uncomfortable, avoiding eye contact or looking away. Should I just smile and keep it moving? Is that the best way to handle these awkward encounters? — Nevada Shut Mouth
For those who prefer silence: Yes, your approach seems appropriate. Being able to greet someone with a smile without delving into conversation shows that you’ve made progress. If you try to engage them in more conversation, you might end up oversharing again.
