Dear Abby:

A few years back, my brother gave me a substantial amount of cryptocurrency. But then, he did something that really hurt both me and my husband, breaking my trust in him. Because of this, I’ve really cut back on my interactions—not just with him, but with the whole family.

When I talked to him about how his actions affected me, he offered an apology, but it wasn’t sincere. He went on to request that I return the cryptocurrency.

I didn’t feel I could give it back since I’m currently facing financial difficulties. To me, that crypto was a gift. There was no discussion about repayment or terms when he handed it over. He later admitted it was a significant mistake on his part. When I said I couldn’t repay him, he seemed to relent. Still, it’s awkward between us now; I sense his anger, and it makes communication difficult.

Trust is gone. And I’m not feeling angry, just—well, cautious. His past behavior, especially his lack of tact towards my sensitive husband, makes me hesitant. How do I navigate this fallout? — Once bitten, twice shy

Dear Alumni:

I really wish I had elaborated more in my previous reply. It seems your issues with your brother are largely rooted in how he interacts with your husband, rather than just the crypto situation. It’s perfectly reasonable to be careful with family matters. If he can’t control his words around your husband, it might indeed be best to maintain some distance for everyone’s sake.

Dear Abby:

I’m retired now and have developed this passion for making bags, totes, and wallets using my sewing machine. I started participating in local craft shows a few years ago—not because I wanted to turn it into a business, but more to manage my overflowing inventory. Financially, it’s fine; we aren’t risking more than we can afford.

My husband, still working, firmly disapproves of this. He insists that my crafting is merely a hobby and finds it absurd that I’m not earning money from it. He’s even suggested I throw away my creations! After all these years of raising kids, I finally have time to enjoy something that makes me happy.

It’s really tearing me up inside. Should I quit doing what I love just to keep the peace at home, or should I persist and face his ongoing discontent? It’s so disheartening to feel such resistance each time I try something new. — Stitching still underway in the south

Dear Still Stitching:

Your husband appears to be quite controlling, trying to dictate how you spend your free time. Remember, this is your hobby, a source of joy that doesn’t have to generate income. Don’t give in to the pressure; keep enjoying your craft.

Dear Abby was created by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.