Dear Abby: How should I handle my in-laws who arrive over three hours early for dinner and just sit at the kitchen counter? There’s a lot to do, and it’s hard to entertain them. I can’t seem to get them to leave the kitchen, which really disrupts my last-minute preparations and cleaning. I don’t want to seem rude because they are good people, but something has to change. — I’m on display in Illinois
Dear Displayed: Not everyone appreciates having company in the kitchen during food prep. Has your husband been made aware of your frustration? If he hasn’t, it might be worth talking to him about it. You may need his help in conveying to his family that you both prefer they not arrive so early. Alternatively, he could entertain them while you finish up.
By the way, my Keepers booklet has a poem that touches on this topic. Written long ago by Susan Sawyer, it was titled “Stay Out of My Kitchen.”
please stay away from my kitchen
From my dishes, cooking, etc.
You kindly offered to participate.
But thank you, no, thank you so much!
don’t think I’m unkind
When I ask you to leave me alone,
My kitchen isn’t very large, so
And my routine is strictly my own.
Please tell me: you stay away from my kitchen
Wet, hot, with lackluster lures —
Don’t come near my kitchen when you’re here
And I promise to stay away from your stuff!
Dear Abby: I’m a salesperson for a company that sells sewing machines, vacuum cleaners, and quilting fabric. My role focuses on selling machines, while another employee, “Natasha,” manages the textile department. Sometimes, our responsibilities overlap, especially during busy times, and we are both paid hourly.
Yesterday was incredibly busy, with tons of customers. Natasha spent her entire day in the fabric section, allowing me to concentrate on the sales floor. By the end, we were both worn out. I quickly listed our sales and mentioned it was a great day.
This morning, my boss said I shouldn’t have celebrated my sales, as Natasha was stuck in textiles and frustrated she couldn’t sell or demo machines. That caught me off guard. Did I cross a line? — Salesperson in Texas
Dear Salesperson: Yes, your boss’s point is valid. It makes sense Natasha would feel upset hearing your praises after a tough day. Moving forward, perhaps it’s best to keep your thoughts to yourself (or you might find someone sewing your lips shut).
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