Dear Abby

Recently, I organized a family gathering that included a cousin who lives nearby, his wife, and their son, daughter-in-law, and her child visiting from Georgia to Pennsylvania.

Since my son and his family don’t often get to see their extended relatives, I thought it would be wonderful to have everyone come together. However, during the gathering, my son hardly acknowledged our cousins. He and his wife didn’t engage in conversation and instead seemed absorbed in their phones, appearing bored and preoccupied with worries about their jobs.

My son is a neurosurgeon while his wife is a nurse, both in their early 40s. It was quite embarrassing for me.

The next day, I reached out to them, expressing how upset I was. Unfortunately, my message went unanswered. I followed up to check if they had seen my initial message, but once again, there was no response.

I feel embarrassed by my cousins’ behavior and disappointed with my son and daughter-in-law. I’m left feeling sick because there seems to be no way to resolve the situation, and I’m unsure how to express these feelings since they aren’t responding. Help! — Wishing you all the best.

Dear Best

Have you considered how socially aware your son and his wife might be? Perhaps something medical was going on while you were with them? It’s possible they felt uneasy about the gathering, especially if you didn’t give them a heads-up about it.

I find myself searching for explanations that could justify their apparent disregard for your relatives, but it’s hard to overlook their lack of response to your messages. Honestly, you should be upset. Yet, turning that anger inward is likely what’s making you feel unwell.

Dear Abby

I’m an older woman who hasn’t been in a relationship for 25 years. Realizing I wanted a connection, I turned to a dating site and met someone, but my nerves got the best of me.

I endeavored to communicate more but discovered he was engrossed in various activities. After trying to call him twice without an answer, I worried he might still be interacting with other women online. I even visited his house, explaining I had moved on since I hadn’t heard back. His response was that his phone was broken, and he was occupied with his son in prison and caring for his ill mother.

Honestly, I’m not sure if he was being truthful, but if it’s the case, that’s quite a lot to manage. I regretted my impatience that might have ruined things. I have since sent him a text and am waiting for his reply. I really like him and valued our connection. What should I do? — Indiana Anxiety

Dear Worrier

It’s not uncommon for mature individuals to act immaturely. Once anxiety took hold, you may have overstepped. Apologizing for being too intense might be wise and assure him you’re not just moving on. Bear in mind though that he has the upper hand now. If you don’t hear from him after some time, it may be time to seek companionship elsewhere.