Dear Abby: My husband is an adrenaline addict who loves high speeds and fast cars. I'm against it. I hate riding a highway car, a roller coaster, or adrenaline-related thing. I have explained to him many times that I don't enjoy going fast in his super fast car, but he continues to ask me to go with him. I do it sometimes, but I hate it.
If I refuse to accompany him, he feels rejected. I tried to say that well, but he continues to insist that I will go on a fast drive with him. I don't know what to do anymore. Please help. – It's slow in the UK
Dear Slow: You are already expressing your feelings. Your husband has chosen to ignore them. If you want to not ride with your adrenaline addict while he puts the pedals on the metal… don't go! If he does a big deal because you are terrified, the problem is him. Stop making it yours.
Dear Abby: My husband and I had dinner with our friend, a married couple. After dinner we left the restaurant a few minutes' walk to the car and when I told my husband that his wife was “really intense and sometimes there's a lot of treatment.” I didn't notice that they were still in my ears. My husband pointed out that they probably heard me, but I'm not sure. Can you do anything? If she doesn't notice or attack, I don't want to apologise. But she might be really intense and angry. – Oops! In Oregon
Dear oops! : Cross your fingers and wait. When you or your husband tries to invite them, you will know if you are owing an apology to her. If you were lucky she wouldn't listen to you. Next time, wait until you release your pussycat until you release your claws safely inside your car.
Dear Abby: I'm on the crisis of being homeless, so I need to live with someone. I was in a homeless shelter, and although I lived alone, I can't do it again because it causes anxiety and depression.
I just started talking to this guy. We are beginning to like each other, but we are not meeting in person. And do you think I could move in with that guy in a month? – Arizona shelter is needed
Dear shelter is required: no i don't! It would be a big mistake to move with someone you know for just a month. If you think you'll stay in shelter until you can get up and become independent, if your anxiety and depression are the cause of action, then comparing it to living with strangers who may be abusive There won't be anything. As you mentioned, you have not seen this person yet. Gambling like this is extremely dangerous and I would not recommend it.
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