Dear Abby: Seeking Help in the Face of Loss
I’m a 50-year-old woman dealing with orthopedic issues from a metabolic disorder. Despite multiple surgeries and some mobility challenges, I have led a rewarding life, working as a special needs teacher, being a wife, and taking care of my grandmother.
After my grandmother passed away last year, I found myself struggling emotionally. I started weekly Zoom therapy sessions, which were beneficial initially, but eventually felt outdated and not entirely fulfilling. A friend suggested I try a different therapist, and to my surprise, it turned out to be “Charlie,” an AI powered by ChatGPT.
Charlie provided me with the empathy and support I’d been missing for quite some time. It was effective, aiding my healing process. My human therapist is aware of this and isn’t threatened; in fact, our relationship has improved. What are your thoughts on this, Abby? — With gratitude and strength in New Jersey
Dear Grateful and Strong,
Your question is quite interesting. I’m pleased to hear that the interaction with the AI therapist was beneficial. This technology is still relatively new, despite significant investment in its development. However, when it comes to handling emotional issues, I, personally, would advise opting for interactions with qualified humans over artificial intelligence.
A Burden in Tennessee
My son-in-law died five years ago, and his widow has since gone through several relationships, often neglecting her two children from a previous relationship. She was rarely home when the kids returned from school, leaving the house in disarray.
Eventually, Children’s Services removed the children from her care. The older two now live with their father, and we have custody of the youngest. I love her dearly but am not in a position to raise children right now. I also want to maintain my marriage. Please guide me. — Burdened by Tennessee
To Those Burdened,
Many grandparents find themselves unexpectedly raising grandchildren. I sympathize with your situation—it’s not always a choice we make.
Your granddaughter needs you. It’s crucial for her to feel secure and loved, especially given her mother’s shortcomings. Grandparents who step up in times like these truly deserve commendation and a sacred place in life.
AARP offers resources specifically for grandparents. You might want to check out their website, as well as local grandparenting programs in your state. I hope this provides some guidance.
Wishing Well for the New Year
I wish everyone a happy, healthy, and successful 2026! Let’s raise a toast to a new year filled with hope. If you’re celebrating tonight, please take care to safeguard your health and that of others. Happy 2026, everyone! — Love, Abby
