Dear Abby: I'm an unhappy married woman with a young child. I'm attracted to a friend of mine and her husband's friend, but he's also married. He's a little older so I don't know if he has feelings for me, but I sometimes doubt it. He made me jewelry and gifts, and several times I caught him staring at me.
We exchange messages on social media and he often asks me questions about myself, what I like, etc. He's so quiet I don't know if it means anything. I can never break up my family by leaving my husband, nor can I break anyone else's family. But I'm starting to wonder if I'm really in love with him, and I think about it sometimes. What should I do? — Clash in the Midwest
Dear Crushing: Be honest, you are was taken. You can't “break up” with your husband or destroy someone else's marriage, so figure out what's wrong with your relationship and resolve to fix it. You'll probably start with a few sessions with a certified marriage and family therapist. Do it now.
Dear Abby: I'm with someone who drinks and gambles, and I've broken countless promises. I recently checked his Facebook account and found that he follows at least 12 women in their 20s, most of whom he barely knows or doesn't know at all. In most of the photos, she is almost naked.
I told him that it bothers me, but he doesn't seem to care. I told him that was disrespectful to me, his significant other. I also told him to think about his actions that affect our relationship. To him, he hasn't done anything wrong. It seems to me that he despises me, but this is not the only time. He wrote letters to some of them, telling them how beautiful they were. am i wrong? — Lost in Florida
For those in need: Your gentlemanly friend may be a voyeur who is drawn to pictures of random “beautiful young women.” It has nothing to do with the respect (or lack thereof) he has for you.he likes it look! It's time to ask yourself why you're with someone who gambles, drinks, and breaks commitments. teeth Impolite). His voyeurism is of little concern to you.
Dear Abby: I went to eat at a fancy restaurant in Manhattan with some of my brothers. One of them ordered too much and was charged a large bill. When it came time to pay, I said, “Let's charge Dad's credit card.'' Our father is wealthy, so that probably would have been OK, but I was against it on principle.
In the end, the bill was split, which was frustrating because the quantities my wife and I ordered were much smaller. I can't talk about it because I'll be accused of being cheap. What was I supposed to do? Also, what should I do when it happens in the future? — Money-conscious New York
Dear MC: Next time you and your sibling go to a fancy restaurant, tell the waiter before taking your order that you want another check.
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