Dear Abby Letters

Dear Abby: My coworker “Erin” has been working from home since the COVID-19 pandemic, while the rest of us have returned to the office. We have a close-knit team and usually get along well, but Erin’s absence is creating some tension. It feels unfair to many of us, though Erin herself doesn’t seem to share that sentiment.

Recently, Erin accepted a new job but hasn’t informed our boss because she’s worried about his reaction. I found out about this and, against her wishes, told my boss. Now I feel kind of caught in a lie. What should I do? — New Mexico’s Tangled Web

Dear Tangled Web: It’s unfortunate that you didn’t mention your company’s policies regarding this situation. Erin took a job at QT while still getting paid by your boss, which could lead to her termination where I live (California). I don’t see your decision to inform your boss as deceitful. You were being loyal to your company.

Dear Abby: I’m nearing 70 and recently I’ve been reminiscing about past conversations, wishing I had handled them differently. I’ve never been good at responding quickly, and now these memories won’t leave me alone. I’m not sure why this is happening or how to stop it. Any advice? — Memorable Michigan

Dear Reflective One: If you find yourself lost in these thoughts often, it might mean you have too much free time. Try to redirect your attention to something else. Remember, while we can’t change the past, we can learn from it to avoid repeating past mistakes. If this is leading to feelings of depression or anxiety, consider reaching out to a therapist.

Dear Abby: I’ve always loved reading and consider myself knowledgeable about etiquette. Recently, a friend shared some advice from a Catholic priest regarding respectful behavior at Mass. They mentioned that crossing one’s legs is considered rude. I’m curious about this since it’s the first time I’ve heard this. — Wonder in the Midwest

For those interested: This advice may be accurate, especially in some Orthodox cultures outside of North America where crossing your legs can be seen as disrespectful. In the U.S., it’s not necessarily taboo but may come across as too casual or relaxed in a church setting.