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A 30-year-old man, Dean Perryman, has been inviting strangers to join him in pubs throughout the country since December as part of his “Empty Chairs” campaign.
The campaign began after Perryman lost his best friend Rob Clancy to suicide, just a month prior, at the age of 29.
To combat loneliness, Perryman dons a bright orange hoodie whenever he goes to a pub or restaurant, making it easy for anyone wanting to chat with him to spot him, even if they’re complete strangers.
Recently, he celebrated the 1000th meet-up of his initiative in Leigh-on-Sea, Essex, which saw about a dozen participants. He expressed pride in how much it has grown.
“It was an incredible experience and I still appreciate every moment,” he shared with a news agency.
“When I first started this, it came from a sad place, but it’s rewarding to see how such a simple idea has helped so many,” he noted. “I’ve met and connected with diverse individuals, and it opens the door for people to speak freely.”
Perryman is employed by Chicken Rush, a team-building game company. He utilized social media to generate interest in his “Empty Chair” concept.
Initially launched in London and Essex, the campaign has expanded, with volunteers now organizing events across the UK and even reaching other countries like Colombia, Spain, the UAE, and Australia.
In smaller towns, he found that many participants return to these events since they often form lasting friendships.
Having attended 61 such gatherings himself, Perryman mentioned that he loves witnessing men express their feelings, recognizing the need for a safe environment for sharing.
“Some individuals arrive hoping for someone to listen to them, while others come to offer support to others. Everyone shares, and it’s a safe space,” he explained.
“No matter who you are, there’s a place for you.”
He remarked on discussions surrounding the challenges of living in big cities, particularly regarding loneliness, indicating no topic is off-limits.
Perryman has scheduled another 200 events, and he’s not planning to slow down anytime soon, noting the variety of people attending these gatherings.
“I meet individuals from various backgrounds every time. It’s so impactful to demonstrate that this is an inclusive space,” he stated. “Men, women, young, and old—everyone is welcome.”
Many seek connection and friendship, especially in new environments.
Perryman hopes that the “Empty Chair” initiative will ultimately honor his late friend Rob, who would have appreciated the concept.
“Rob was genuinely kind and gentle. Although he wasn’t always one to share his feelings, he lit up any room he entered,” Perryman reflected. “It’s heartening to think that Empty Chairs could serve as his legacy.”
