Hook-up culture is “completely wrong,” Suzanne Benker told Breitbart News in an interview ahead of her appearance at Turning Point USA’s Young Women’s Leadership Summit.
She is a women’s life and relationship coach. Suzanne Benkershawwere asked to talk about current culture and name one of the most common pieces of advice given to women in culture today that is “totally wrong.”
“Hook-up culture,” she was quick to respond, countering the idea that women should put off marriage “as long as possible” and just “hook up” without an actual relationship.
“The idea that women should delay marriage as long as possible means they need to be given some sort of message about what they should do about sex and relationships in the meantime, and all they hear is that dating is dead,” she said.
“And that’s been replaced by this idea of hooking up, which is just hanging out or having a physical relationship with someone that you don’t actually have any connection with, as if that’s the good way, the natural way, the only way while you wait to start your life and settle down,” she said, describing it as “really destructive to women”.
While she clarified that this is also harmful to men, Vencker said it’s especially bad for women because “women have a time frame to plan their lives and they need to start thinking seriously about marriage and kids earlier than the average man, because women are the ones who get pregnant, they’re the ones who give birth, and their lives are the ones that change the most.”
At the end of the day, Vencker said, relationships are what truly fulfills and empowers women.
“The stronger they get, [relationships] “The stronger the other person, the more powerful you feel. The weaker you are, the less powerful you feel, because it doesn’t come from money or status. Women — most women, there are exceptions — don’t get real meaning and fulfillment from that. The same is true for men,” Benker said.
“Men have a nurturing gene that women don’t have, which gives them a strong drive to provide for their family. That’s part of a man’s overall mission. Most women don’t have that,” she added.
Check out the full interview below: Suzanne Benker talks marriage, kids and career: Can women really have it all?
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