Dear Abby: A Request for Advice

Dear Abby,

I just got back from vacation, where my cat sitter came by twice a day—just like she has for the past five years. This time, though, I asked another person, someone I met recently at a respected spiritual center, to help out as well.

I handed out keys to both. Now, some of my valuable gems have vanished. They were the only ones in my house, which feels… well, incredibly frustrating.

Making friends doesn’t come easily for me, and it stings to think that I might have to cut them both out of my life. I won’t get answers, and it seems so final.

So, is there any way—I don’t know—besides completely severing ties without a word? – Florida Victim

Dear Victim,

You mentioned your cat sitter has been reliable for five years, but a gem went missing after you brought in a new acquaintance. It might not be necessary to end relationships with both, though it could be wise to change your locks and look for someone new. After all, perhaps cat sitters should be trustworthy?

Have you reported the missing gems to the police? If not, that might be a good step.

Insights on Wedding Etiquette

Dear Abby,

After reading the letter from the bride’s parents about “Abandoned Wedding in New York” on April 23, I felt moved to respond. With over 30 years in the hospitality industry, I’ve witnessed my fair share of “Bridezilla” moments and families behaving poorly due to their own expectations.

I do miss the simpler, more heartfelt weddings from the COVID “microwedding” period. There was something genuinely sincere about how couples and their guests appreciated those moments together.

Parents should acknowledge the hard work they’ve put into raising independent and genuine young women. It’s not about lavish gifts and extravagant events but rather celebrating love in a meaningful way.

Her parents owe her an apology for their approach. They should be grateful if they’re still invited to be part of her special day. – Lynn R. of California

Dear Lynn,

Almost all readers who responded to the wedding-related letters echoed your sentiments. Your thoughts are concise and valid: the wedding is for the couple, not the parents.

Things tend to go more smoothly when parents keep this in mind.