Kristin Cavallari says she has become more interested in sex as she approaches 40, even though she is currently abstinent. On a recent episode of her podcast, “Let’s Be Honest,” the reality star said her sex drive is stronger now than it was in her mid-20s. For the moment, she joked, she’s taking care of things herself.
Cavallari said she hopes to be in a relationship again and feels more in touch with her sexuality than she used to. Her most recent relationship, she explained, was very physical, and that’s one part of it she misses.
She also said she’s looking forward to turning 40, adding that if this is what her 40s are like, she’s happy to embrace them. Earlier in the podcast episode, she joked that a person needs one or two years of abstinence to become a nun, and said she was making progress.
Cavallari was married to former NFL quarterback Jay Cutler from 2013 until they announced their divorce in 2020. They have three children: Camden, 14, Jaxon, 12, and Saylor, 10.
On the “Aspire with Emma Grede” podcast in July 2026, Cavallari said the success of her company, Uncommon James, gave her the confidence to leave the marriage. She said she didn’t receive money from Cutler and instead had to pay him half the company’s value through cash, property and other assets. Looking back, she said she was glad with how things worked out.
After the divorce, Cavallari briefly dated Mark Estes in 2024 and was also linked to country singer Morgan Wallen. On Bunnie XO’s “Dumb Blonde” podcast that December, she said Wallen was good in bed and admitted she found it unsettling that he wasn’t immediately captivated by her. She said she was used to feeling she had the upper hand in relationships.
In an April 2025 episode of her own podcast, Cavallari revealed that she had been dating former NHL player Nate Thompson, but that they ended the relationship in March. She described it as one of the most honest and meaningful relationships she’d had, despite its short duration. Thompson, she said, is a father who had spent time working on himself, and the two connected deeply. Still, she realized she didn’t want to be in a relationship.
