An author has raised alarms about the potential dangers of superhuman artificial intelligence, suggesting it could lead to humanity’s demise. Interestingly, he is in a relationship with Aella, a self-identified sex worker who openly shares details about her experiences with group sex and various sexual kinks.
Nate Soares, who leads the Machine Intelligence Research Institute and is a co-author of the notable book “If Anyone Builds It, Everyone Dies,” has been identified publicly as Aella’s partner. Aella, an online creator, reportedly makes up to $100,000 a month from her work on platforms like OnlyFans.
During a discussion about consensual non-consent, Aella drew attention to Soares, saying, “Nate v good at that it’s horrifying,” while responding to a query about how to make such scenarios more vibrant.
As recently as Tuesday, Aella was sharing content about Soares, humorously noting that he resembles an exhausted superhero after “two sleep-deprived weeks” packed with work commitments, including meetings and flight schedules.
Soares stands out in the AI safety debate for his rather bleak outlook, cautioning that creating superhuman AI through contemporary approaches might endanger humanity’s existence.
Reflecting on his youth, he noted that he wanted to “save the world,” initially through political avenues, but later became convinced that AI posed a more immediate threat after engaging with communities like LessWrong.
Before becoming fully involved with MIRI in 2014 and quickly ascending to the role of executive director the following year, he worked as a software engineer at Google. Soares assumed the presidency of MIRI in 2023 as the organization began shifting focus from technical research to raising awareness among policymakers and the public about advanced AI hazards.
Aella’s writings provide quite a personal insight into the life surrounding one of AI doom’s well-known figures.
In a candid Substack piece, she shared an experience at an orgy where three men restrained her while she struggled—emphasizing it was a consensual scenario that she voluntarily engaged in. “I’m at an orgy. Three men are holding me down as I struggle,” she described, stressing the encounter was arousing for her despite moments of discomfort.
Aella explained that things became tricky when a participant applied too much pressure on her elbow, leading her to use a “yellow” signal to indicate she wanted to slow down and assess the situation. She labeled it a “gangbang scene” and delved into her observations about partners’ abilities to read physical cues correctly.
She cautioned readers against misconstruing her graphic depictions as abuse. “All the stories below are CONSENSUAL, I don’t regret any of it,” she asserted before detailing experiences deemed particularly pleasurable.
Aella has not shied away from discussing consensual non-consent with respect to Soares, complimenting him on his energy and playfulness within such contexts, even describing the situation as “horrifying.” The couple has also filmed adult content together.
Her writing continues to be candid and explicit regarding her sexual experiences.
In a recent Substack update, Aella promoted “Slutcon,” an event she framed as transforming from a conventional conference into an “intensive workshop” designed to enhance attendees’ sexual and flirting abilities. She also contrasted her dating experiences, mentioning a new partner who could allegedly bring her to orgasm within minutes, a significant departure from her previous “legendarily good” partner.
Aella refrained from naming either man in that particular discussion.
“You do not become a legendary master at sex by having an ego that prevents you from acquiring new information,” she noted, adding that those organizing Slutcon were pleasantly surprised by the high demand from women interested in participating as “flirt girls,” resulting in a balanced gender ratio among attendees.
Aella wrapped up her promotion with a friendly invitation, encouraging potential attendees to come up and “say hi and shamelessly hit on me,” even adding that she enjoys being flirted with.
In the same Substack post, she conveyed rising anxieties surrounding AI safety following endorsements from notable figures for slowing AI development. “My social circle is buzzing like someone just poured water into their anthill,” she conveyed, capturing the palpable mix of hope and desperation around the issue.
Aella also highlighted an upcoming gathering in Berkeley focusing on AI extinction risks, where attendees could engage with representatives from various AI safety organizations.
She continues to be deeply engaged with both AI and her personal life, shift gears in her recent writing from discussing existential fears about AI to promoting Slutcon.
“Slutcon is in a week and a half!” she exclaimed. “It’s going to be very good.”
Efforts to obtain comments from Soares and Aella remain ongoing.
