Nowadays, many men face significant challenges in their relationships with women.
To put it plainly, my wife, mother, sisters, co-workers, and various female friends have reached a breaking point.
I’ve learned from two certified mental health counselors I know, both of whom are gay, that they don’t take female clients anymore. Being alone with a woman in a private setting now seems too risky, even for them.
This is something I know firsthand because they’ve mentioned it to me. As a peer support counselor, I hear from men who can’t talk about these concerns openly for fear of repercussions. There just aren’t many safe outlets for these discussions.
I shared some of their experiences in an article that turned out to be the most read piece I’ve published since I started on Substack in 2022. The piece was provocatively titled “When the women in the family go crazy.”
Was the title designed to grab attention? Absolutely. I want clicks because readers generate income for me, after all.
Yet, my goal is more than just that; I want to bring these issues to light. How else can we address the growing trend of women refusing to adhere to basic standards of adult behavior, especially in public? Forget politics—those emotional outbursts we often see have nothing to do with “fascism,” just like a temper tantrum in a store isn’t about candy. They absolutely deserve a firm response.
This isn’t just a male concern; women know it too. But, it seems everyone is too afraid to voice it.
And, honestly, that’s unfortunate.
Concerns Among Women
My Substack article didn’t break new ground or offer any major revelations. The response was largely due to its honest portrayal of men grappling with chaotic female behavior. I’m not condemning anyone or blaming a whole gender as “misogynistic.”
Today, I want to delve a bit deeper into their experiences.
But let me make it clear: this isn’t strictly a conservative versus liberal debate. While this behavior often comes from left-leaning women, it’s also visible among modern conservative women who have developed a similar sense of entitlement and expect certain respect afforded to women only. This reflects a cultural shift driven by feminist ideology since the ’60s.
Not all women fit this mold, of course. I’m examining trends within a demographic, not labeling every woman. If this doesn’t resonate with you, that’s probably valid. However, if these observations make you uncomfortable, perhaps it’s worth reflecting on why.
Consequences of “Empowerment”
One reason to keep spotlighting this issue is that it’s escalating, sometimes with dire outcomes. Take the recent tragedy involving Renee Good, a woman shot by ICE agents in Minneapolis.
Good pursued the agents to prevent them from arresting undocumented immigrants. Video footage shows her positioning her SUV across the road, antagonizing the officers, and trying to ram her vehicle into one of them, which led to her getting shot.
A mother and a widow, her senseless demise now leaves three children without parents. A notable aspect of the story is that Good’s lesbian partner was present and seemed to encourage her actions right until the moment of escalation.
This illustrates the dangers of promoting “empowerment” without caution or accountability. Good believed fervently in her cause, even resorting to using her car as a weapon to “protest” police activity, as her circle drove her on. Sadly, she paid the ultimate price.
The officer she attacked could have easily become a victim too. And now we find ourselves mired in yet another tragedy that has been quickly politicized, further deepening divisions in America.
While these extremes aren’t typical, daily instances of women’s entitled behavior can severely damage relationships, careers, and families, leading to situations like Good’s.
These anecdotes may blend different perspectives, but they are grounded in real experiences—while they represent insights from both gay and straight men, the same struggles occur regardless of sexual orientation, absent romantic or sexual attachments.
Bob, Hotel Executive
Bob, who works for a prominent luxury hotel chain, is a vice president responsible for marketing—a field heavily populated by women. His subordinate, Becca, has the upper hand since she can bring him to tears the moment he questions her work.
After presenting subpar work—which lacked necessary details and borrowed from others—Bob understandably pushed back. When he did, Becca started crying, leading to a repetitive cycle until Bob finally told her she needed to meet the same expectations as everyone else. She then reported Bob to HR, claiming he was “aggressive towards women.”
Now, the female HR leaders require Bob to “check in” with Becca about his language and tone. Frustrated, Bob reached out to me, feeling unheard just because he’s a man. He can’t communicate with Becca like an adult or uphold any standards, and now he’s forced to pick up her slack to get the project done because clients won’t pay otherwise.
Sam, Husband
Sam, married for 14 years with three daughters, has seen a significant transformation in his wife, Courtney, since their early days together. Initially, she was smart, nurturing, and matched his affection. However, her leftist views have now taken a turn for the extreme.
Sam endures daily tirades about “fascist dictator Donald Trump” and receives relentless political texts from Courtney, demanding his stance on current events.
Her critiques even extend to his hobbies, which she labels as “dangerous,” expressing that he has “no right” to expose their family to certain chemicals. Sam enjoys building gasoline engine models in the garage—a passion that now raises alarms for her.
His adolescent daughters have begun treating him like a subordinate, rejecting responsibilities and complaining to their mother that their dad is “too strict” and dismissive of their emotions.
Sam still loves Courtney but can’t comprehend the changes. He feels her respect for him is dwindling, implying that she no longer cherishes him as an equal partner. I sadly told Sam I thought he was correct; it was evident Courtney lacked respect for him, and no loving woman would treat her husband this way.
Sam is now determined to ensure his daughters don’t become as emotionally volatile and entitled as their mother. Honestly, I’m not sure he can manage that.
Gary, Piano Teacher
Gary has taught piano at a university for many years. He embodies the archetype of a sensitive and artistic man, with a gentle and soft-spoken demeanor. He immerses himself in music and tends to display a lot of emotion while performing. As a result, people generally perceive him as gay—and he is, openly.
One of his female students, Cindy, found his assignments and grading unsatisfactory. Upset, she started an initiative against him, alleging he didn’t treat her with respect each time he gave her constructive criticism.
Gary stood firm and didn’t waver on her grades. The situation escalated, prompting Cindy to file a complaint with student services, claiming Gary was being “creepy” and making inappropriate comments during their meetings. It’s important to remember that everyone knew Gary was gay.
Despite being vindicated later, his reputation took a hit, leading to considerable difficulties in finding employment elsewhere. Gary currently does odd landscaping jobs to make ends meet.
Similar accusations against gay men are more common. Like the mental health counselors I’ve mentioned, many, including those I know, now avoid working with female clients for fear of unjust repercussions. It’s astonishing, really—safety in professional settings has eroded even for those who are not attracted to women.
Alex, Ambitious Husband and Father
Alex is a man in his 30s who dreams of marrying and starting a family but finds himself feeling hopeless about achieving that dream. Unlike many of his peers who find love through dating apps, Alex’s experiences have been different.
“You can’t even hint at being conservative on these apps; otherwise, women will just swipe left,” he told me. “And then, they’ll label you with all sorts of negative tags.”
When he goes on actual dates set up through those apps, the same politics will inevitably surface in conversation. It’s become a sort of “test” many women conduct to see if a man shares their views.
Alex recounted a date with an attractive woman that went sideways. When he expressed his traditional desire for a family, she interpreted that as him being retrogressive, calling him a “misogynistic patriarch” who wanted to “chain her to the kitchen.” This led her to walk away.
While my client base tends to self-select, they aren’t here because they’re content with their situations. Their narratives often echo those of men from various backgrounds.
This isn’t about a fringe group—the sentiments originate from men who largely remain single, often due to modern women’s preferences that don’t align with traditional masculinity. They appear to want men who are passive, family-oriented, and submissive. But deep down, most women, I believe, yearn for the traits inherent in strong, assertive men who can take care of and protect their families. This desire is instinctual; it’s built into our biology. Feminism has, unfortunately, distorted that dynamic, resulting in countless unhappy lives.
I can’t prescribe an exact solution to mend thisbroken cycle, but I have some notions on what needs to shift for men and women to rediscover meaningful connections.
- Family should be prioritized above all else.
- Critiques of traditional family values from the left need a robust pushback. It’s time to call out that narrative, just as they have done to the right since the 1960s.
- Men must no longer tolerate unreasonable behavior from women. Yes, it’ll provoke backlash, and they’ll likely be labeled “misogynistic,” but at some point, we have to confront these issues head-on.
- Sensible women, and there are plenty, need to exert social pressure to curtail unhelpful behavior within their circles. Don’t hang out with women who belittle their partners—instead, support men who deserve respect.
So, dear reader, what do you think? What’s your take on this?
