One pregnant woman reportedly said she never wanted a gender reveal party, but then a family member forced her to have one, leading to a dramatic and ongoing family feud.
“I’m pregnant with a baby boy due in November,” one woman posted on social media over the weekend, garnering almost 9,000 reactions and over 1,200 comments so far.
“My fiancé and I weren’t too concerned about the gender of our baby, so we didn’t make a big fuss about it after we found out,” said a woman who shared her experience on a Reddit page known as AITA (Am I an Idiot?).
“The only people we told were our parents, their partners and our siblings,” “ThrowawayGenReveal” wrote in the post.
However, she added, “Recently, my father’s girlfriend of three years asked me about planning a gender reveal party. I had always made it very clear that I did not want a party.”
But “when I told my parents the gender of our son, she seemed disappointed that I didn’t change my mind about the party,” she said.
The woman added, “I don’t like gender reveals. Never have, never will. I prefer baby showers because I think it gives you more of a feel for the actual child. I’ve never tried to hide that opinion.”
A few days later, the woman continued, “My dad’s girlfriend invited me to their apartment for tea (my dad was out of town). When we got there, about 10 people surprised us by coming out of hiding. There were pink and blue decorations everywhere, so it was pretty clear what was going on.”
The pregnant woman said she “just stood there in shock.”
“My dad’s girlfriend excitedly told me she was going to throw us a surprise gender reveal party.”
The woman wrote that her father’s girlfriend apparently took it upon herself to “order a cake with colorful icing, decorate the apartment, and invite lots of people over.”
She continued about the surprise gender reveal party, “Guests included her mom (who I’m not particularly close to), a few of her friends, my mother-in-law (not my mom), and four of my friends. I later found out that my mother-in-law and friends had been informed that I had changed my mind about the gender reveal.”
But the woman insisted, “I didn’t do that.”
She added that as she stood at the front door, “I looked at the guys and said, ‘Boys, you can all go home now.'”
And she left “without looking back,” she wrote.
“My dad called me a few hours later, furious that I’d ruined the party. He said that my girlfriend had put so much effort, money and love into planning the party and that I should have shown her respect and gratitude. Apparently, she hadn’t stopped crying since I left the party.”
The pregnant woman added in her post: “It’s been almost a week and they’re both still upset. I’ve explained to them that I never wanted the party in the first place but they insist I should have just held off for an hour or that I should have at least cut the cake.”
So she asked others on the platform if what she did, and what she still feels, was wrong.
Fox News Digital has reached out to the psychologist for comment.
In the most upvoted comment on the situation on Reddit (with nearly 11,000 votes), a writer commented that pregnant women’s actions and feelings are not wrong.
“This is her [the dad’s girlfriend] “She’s trying to ‘prove’ that she cares more about you than your mom, especially considering your mom wasn’t invited or declined the invitation to respect your wishes,” one person wrote.
“She doesn’t seem to understand how to provide evidence that you care. Jeez “Actually ask what you want and don’t want,” the same person added.
Another person said: “You made it very clear how you felt about gender reveal parties and your dad’s girlfriend completely and purposefully ignored that and disrespected you.”
The commenter added, “It’s such a shame that she ruined the party she organized herself. The party was just for her and she should have taken it a step further and not invited you.”
And another person, speaking for many others, wrote: “You set boundaries, and the minute you saw them being violated you walked away from them.”
This person also pointed out, “If you had participated, any time you tried to use it in the future as an example of crossing the line, you would have been told, ‘See, it wasn’t that bad’ or ‘You went to a party, why are you complaining?'”
