One pregnant woman reportedly said she never wanted a gender reveal party, but then a family member forced her to have one, leading to a dramatic and ongoing family feud.
“I’m pregnant with a baby boy due in November,” one woman posted on social media over the weekend, garnering almost 9,000 reactions and over 1,200 comments so far.
“My fiancé and I didn’t really care about the gender of our baby, so we didn’t make a big fuss after finding out,” said a woman who shared her experience on a Reddit page known as AITA (Am I an Idiot?).
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“The only people we told were our parents, their partners and our siblings,” “ThrowawayGenReveal” wrote in the post.
However, she added, “Recently, my dad’s girlfriend of three years asked me if I was planning a gender reveal party. I had always made it very clear that I didn’t want a party.”
“I don’t like gender reveals. Never have I ever liked them, never will,” wrote a woman on Reddit who shared her experience. “I prefer baby showers because I think they give you a better feel for your actual child, and I’ve never tried to hide that opinion.” (iStock)
But “when I told my parents the gender of our son, she seemed disappointed that I didn’t change my mind about the party,” she said.
The woman added, “I don’t like gender reveals. Never have, never will. I prefer baby showers because I think they give you more of a feel for the actual child, and I’ve never tried to hide that opinion.”
The pregnant woman said she “just stood there in shock.”
A few days later, the woman continued, “My father’s girlfriend invited us over to their apartment for tea (my father was out). When we got there, about 10 people came out of hiding to surprise us. There were pink and blue decorations everywhere, so it was obvious what was going on.”
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The pregnant woman said she “just stood there in shock.”
“Then my dad’s girlfriend excitedly told me she was going to throw us a surprise gender reveal party.”
The woman wrote that her father’s boyfriend apparently took it upon himself to “order a cake with colorful icing, decorate the apartment, and invite lots of people over.”
“I looked at the guys and I said, ‘It’s a boy. You can go home now.’ (iStock)
She continued about the surprise gender reveal party, “Guests included her mom (who I’m not particularly close to), a few of her friends, my mother-in-law (not my mom), and four of my friends. I later found out I had told my mother-in-law and friends that I had changed my mind about the gender reveal.”
But the woman insisted, “I didn’t do that.”
“My dad called me and was furious that I had ruined the party.”
She added that as she stood in the front door, “I looked at the guys and I said, ‘Boys, you can all go home now.'”
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And she left “without looking back,” she wrote.
“My dad called me a few hours later, furious that I had ruined the party. He said that my girlfriend had put so much effort, money and love into planning the party and that I should have shown her respect and gratitude. Apparently, she hadn’t stopped crying since I left the party,” she said.
“Even after I explained that I never wanted that party in the first place, they still insist that I could have held out for an hour or at least been able to cut the cake.” (iStock)
The pregnant woman added in her post: “It’s been almost a week and they’re still upset. I’ve explained to them that I never wanted the party in the first place but they insist I should have just held off for an hour or at least cut the cake.”
So she asked others on the platform if what she did, and what she still feels, was wrong.
“Since this party was everything she wanted, maybe she should have gone a step further and not even invited you.”
Fox News Digital has reached out to the psychologist for comment.
In the most upvoted comment on Reddit about the situation (with nearly 11,000 votes), one writer wrote that pregnant women’s actions and feelings are not wrong.
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“This smells like her [the dad’s girlfriend] “She’s trying to ‘prove’ that she cares more about you than your mom, especially considering your mom wasn’t invited or declined the invitation to respect your wishes,” one person wrote.
“You set a boundary, and the minute you saw it being broken, you broke that boundary yourself.” (Tiffany Hagler-Geard/Bloomberg via Getty Images)
“She doesn’t seem to understand how to provide evidence that you care. Jeez “Actually ask what you want and don’t want,” the same person added.
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Another person said: “You made it very clear how you felt about gender reveal parties and your dad’s girlfriend completely and purposefully ignored that and disrespected you.”
The commenter added, “It’s such a shame that she ruined the party she organized herself. The party was just for her and she probably should have gone the extra mile and not invited you.”
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Yet another person, echoing the feelings of many others, wrote, “You set a boundary, then the moment you saw it being broken you broke it yourself.”
This person also pointed out that “if you had participated, any time you tried to use it in the future as an example of crossing the line, you would be told, ‘See, it wasn’t that bad’ or ‘You went to a party, why complain?'”
