Dear Abby Letters

Dear Abby: I follow the Christian faith and raised my family similarly, and now my kids are passing those values to their own. However, we don’t all belong to the same denomination.

One of my grandchildren thinks his denomination is the only true one and has decided that no one outside his church can meet his child. While I respect his choice, I’m deeply saddened and, honestly, quite angry. It troubles me that my great-grandchildren might grow up without knowing their great-grandparents or grandparents. I fear I will never meet them.

I let my grandson know that I recognize this is his family and ultimately his decision. He is aware of my feelings. Given that I won’t be attending family events, what should I do about gifts? Should we still acknowledge the new baby and send something? I truly hope that one day our grandson realizes how much we love him and his family. — Principles in Florida

Dear Principle: I always believed Christianity was about inclusiveness. This situation with your grandchild seems to lean more toward exclusivity, almost resembling a cult mindset. Before deciding what, if anything, to send for the baby, you might want to check with your grandson about whether gifts from “outsiders” are permitted.

Dear Abby: My close friend of 40 years, Dorothy, came to celebrate my birthday. She’s visited me many times, but this was only her third visit to my current place. As I was heading out to the garage, she tripped on a small step and fell, hurting her shoulder and leg. It’s been six months, and although her medical bills are settled, she’s claimed she needs more home care and plans to file a claim against my insurance.

The insurance company investigated and concluded I’m not liable as the homeowner. They believe her underlying health issues—like diabetes and obesity—were likely to blame for her fall and ongoing recovery. Their advice was to have no contact with her, which I followed for about eight months. Now I’m afraid she might sue me when she learns of the insurance decision.

Honestly, I don’t think this is my fault. The area was well-lit and clear, and she had navigated those steps several times. It’s disheartening to potentially lose decades of friendship, but here we are. Am I missing something? — Innocent in the West

Dear Innocent: Ending a 40-year friendship because of an insurance recommendation seems hasty. Instead, you should have suggested that she reach out to the insurance company directly, and the two of you could have discussed things openly. Responsibility can always be contested in court. If you reach out to her now, it might not be too late to mend your friendship.