My husband deceived me years ago — I won’t forget it.

Dear Abby:

I met someone at work, and we quickly fell in love. After a brief dating period, he asked me to be his girlfriend, and soon enough, we moved in together. I ended up getting pregnant.

Three months into my pregnancy, he noticed a message on his phone from a female coworker. The first message introduced her as “Brianne,” and the second was related to work.

His job required him to make calls throughout the day, so his number was known by many people at his workplace. I heard from others that Brianne seemed very interested in him. Although he deleted the introductory message, he kept the work-related one.

When I confronted him about it, he lied and claimed he didn’t know who it was. This sparked a significant argument, and he later admitted he lied to avoid a fight.

Eventually, our jobs changed, and we got married. Since then, things have been smooth sailing in our relationship.

Still, years later, I find it hard to fully trust him. I’ve tried to move past it, but the lack of trust lingers. Am I overreacting here? — I can’t forget Florida

To your loved ones:

I can understand your feelings. Your husband shouldn’t have lied to you. However, you mention that your marriage has been going well since the baby was born.

If achieving a happier marriage is your goal, it might be useful to talk to a professional counselor about ways to rebuild trust in your relationship.

It’s known that focusing too much on the past can cause one to stumble in the present.

Dear Abby:

My boyfriend and I have had an on-and-off relationship for five years. We were engaged two years ago, but we called it off a month before the wedding due to various reasons.

A few months later, we reconnected, and things have improved significantly since then. Our love feels much stronger now, and we’re discussing marriage again.

The catch? We live two hours apart. Because of my job, I only see him about once a month. We did try counseling, but scheduling was tough.

We are deeply in love but also anxious. I have my beliefs about not cohabitating before marriage for cultural reasons. He has previously shared a home with an ex.

We come from different backgrounds, and there’s a 12-year age gap, plus we spend more time apart than together. But when we’re together, everything feels great.

Abby, is this normal? Do I just have “cold feet”? How can I manage my anxiety? –– nervous about love