Dear Abby: My sister had an affair with her ex-boyfriend for several months. She was 58 years old and had been married for 38 years. Her husband, a wonderful man and father of three adult children, has forgiven her. He was a devout Catholic and divorce was out of the question. She asked for forgiveness from her husband and children and has made every effort to resolve the problems in her marriage.
The problem that persists is that her eldest son (daughter, 35 years old) won't forgive and now seems to hate her mother. My niece refuses to have any relationship with her mother. This situation is very painful for my sister and threatens to break her. Please let me know if you have any advice. — sadness in oklahoma
Dear sad friends: Your sister's husband and two other adult children forgave their mother's affair. No one can force a daughter to accept that her mother, like many others, is flawed. People make mistakes. Your sister still has to move on with her life, but I hope that as she grows up she will learn to forgive, just as the Lord forgives most of us after we repent. I'm here.
Dear Abby: I have been a caregiver since I was 13 years old. I'm almost 54 years old. I have been taking care of my younger sister since my parents passed away nearly 20 years ago. Since she is starting to need more care and I have health issues myself, I am seriously considering putting her in a nursing home.
We have brothers and sisters who promise to help take care of her and give me rest, but they didn't do it. I'm married. Both sons have grown up and left home to live their own lives. Should I or should I feel guilty? — Duty-bound New Jersey
To those who are obligated to: i don't think so. Now is the time to take care of yourself. You have gone above and beyond in caring for your sister. If she needs assistance with living, your brother should at least come forward to help pay for it, since he hasn't provided any assistance in the past.
Dear Abby: I am a stepmother to a beautiful woman that I love. She gave us three beautiful granddaughters and one handsome grandson. Sadly, my husband has a rare, aggressive form of cancer that appears to be terminal. My question is, will I continue to be a stepmother even after he passes away?
I know it's probably up to her, but I'm curious about the proper protocol. This will help you decide how to introduce her to others. Will she always be my stepdaughter or will she be my late husband's daughter? — unknown in new york
Dear Unknown: When it comes to love, rules don't matter. This conversation is premature. After your husband's funeral, ask your daughter what she would like to be called in the future and explain that you love her as if she were your own child and do not want to use a label that makes her feel inferior. Please tell me. that.
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