Dear Abby: I have been dating the same man for 3 years and have been engaged for a year now.
I love him dearly, but I found out over the phone that he was cheating on me with a guy on the internet. I also saw some messages in his email.
Does this mean he never told me he was bi? I don't know what to do. Please help me before I make a mistake. — Hurt by love
To all those hurt: This means your fiancé is bisexual or gay.
For your own sake, let him know that you know what's going on. Because if he's having an affair now, no marriage vows can change him.
Ask your doctor to test you for STDs, then call off the wedding so you can find a faithful spouse and a relationship where he can be his true self.
Dear Abby: My wife and I have been married for 7 years. This is the second marriage for both of us. We have a good relationship and love each other.
Before we got married, I told my girlfriend that I liked animals but didn't want to keep a pet. She is an animal lover and is currently pushing me to get a small dog. She wants me to change my position, but I won't.
This morning she broke up with me and said she might have to find someone who wants a pet.
I told her I understood and would accept her decision. Now I need guidance because I know the dog is more important to her than our relationship. Please help me. — Frustrated with Indiana
Dear Irritated: I would have liked you to explain why you feel so strongly about not having a (small) dog in your home.
You and your wife need more mediation than I can offer in a letter. A marriage counselor may be able to help you communicate with each other more effectively than ever before.
She was wrong to give you a semi-ultimatum, but it tells me that you two may have more issues to resolve than whether or not to get a dog.
Dear Abby: Our daughter, son-in-law and two grandchildren live in Australia due to my son-in-law's job.
One of my grandchildren is about to become a bar mitzvah, and my daughter has asked me to send her a list of her friends so she can send him an invitation.
Since going to Australia is such a long and expensive trip, we are sure that none of our friends will attend and that they will view the invitation as a request for a gift.
Should I send her the list she's requesting? — Confused grandparents
Dear Grandparents: For the reasons you stated, I object to sending invitations to people who are not immediate family.
Because of the distance, intention Looks like a gift or a bid for money.
A diplomatic way to break the news of your grandchild's rite of passage would be to share it orally with a friend. A friend can volunteer to send something to the boy.
Perhaps the feedback you receive could shape your invite list.
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