My new friend Michelle recently told me that she had an abortion when she was young and has lived with deep sadness and regret. She cried out to the Lord for healing and forgiveness for her regrettable decision and promised Him that she would never have an abortion again.
A few years later, she remarried and found herself pregnant again, this time at age 40. Her husband was furious. He wanted nothing to do with his child, so much so that he tried to bribe Michelle with a vacation to Hawaii if she aborted the child. She couldn't because she had sworn to God never to abort a child again.
So what did she do?
Although her husband was furious, Michelle ended up doing one of the bravest things any woman could do. It was to give up his precious daughter for adoption.
When she told me the whole story, it really brought tears to my eyes. I felt justified anger at my husband who begged her to abort our little girl, claiming she was too old to have children. I cannot understand that any father would want to abort his child, no matter the circumstances. But maybe that's because the men around me love children and welcome them with open arms. My father was the father of nine of us and worked hard to provide for all of our needs. My husband is the best father to our child. And my stepfather is the best grandfather in the world to our toddler. These are not boys, but real men.
But what about the men who beg mothers to bear their children? They are rarely mentioned. Many of these men live with the quiet sadness of being told that they have no voice in this debate and that their opinions don't matter.
Men have been bullied into silence and cornered, as slogans like “No womb, no opinion” have been successfully shoved down men's throats.
We know that post-abortion women are more likely to suffer from substance abuse, depression, and even suicide. But what about men?
In an article titled “'The Hollow Men': Men's Grief and Trauma After Abortion”In a preliminary study, Dr. Vincent Lu found that 4 in 10 men experience symptoms of chronic post-traumatic stress disorder, which last about 15 years after their partner has an abortion. occurred later.
“Other disconcerting findings include 88% feeling sad and sad, 82% feeling guilty, 77% angry, 64% anxious, 68% feeling isolated, and 31% feeling sad. 40% feel helpless and have sexual problems,” Dr. Lu said.
Of course, these factors include whether the man wanted a child or not, but this shows how serious the aftermath of abortion is for men, and this issue is largely ignored.
Earlier this month, 10 states voted on one of today's most controversial issues: abortion. Three states, including my home state of South Dakota, have said no to abortion, but unfortunately seven states have said no. To summarize the initial report, show Approximately $234 million was spent on the abortion fight this recent election cycle.
Feminists and pro-abortion advocates alike continue to push abortion as a women's rights issue, touting “my body, my choice,” “restore women's reproductive rights,” and “no womb, no opinion.” It justifies abortion.
However, this message leaves out an important part of the conversation: the father.
Widely used slogans such as “No womb, no opinion” have been successfully shoved down men's throats, and men have been bullied into silence and cornered. The abortion lobby continues to tell men that they have no place in the arena. It takes two people to tango and make a baby, so why are fathers so rarely involved?
There are different types of fathers, like my friend Michelle. Some are good and some are bad. Some fathers do not want their children and force mothers to have abortions. Some fathers never know they have given birth to a child. Some fathers beg the mother to keep the baby, but the mother aborts the child anyway.
Many women pass through the family planning door because they don't have a supportive partner to help them raise children.
The sexual revolution of the 1960s and 1970s created the idea that abortion was “safe, legal, and rare.” Instead, abortion became common, easily available, and the number one method of birth control. Men and women were then “liberated” to have sex with anyone, anytime, anywhere. Roe vs. Wade In 1973, the status quo was maintained. Are you pregnant? No problem.
There are many reasons why women undergo abortions, but given the lax reporting requirements, we must rely heavily on studies and surveys. Today's medical news I looked into it be 5 years of research Ask the woman why she wanted an abortion. About 40% said the reason was financial, 36% said it was timing, and 31% said it was due to their partner's situation. Another study from Care Net found that nearly four in 10 (38%) women say their baby's father has the most influence on whether they want an abortion .
Another study found that almost 74% As in Michelle's case, a high proportion of women who had an abortion felt some kind of pressure to have an abortion.
The decision to have an abortion depends primarily on the father and whether he supports the mother and the child financially, emotionally, and physically (even if they do not marry). It doesn't help that the majority of women who undergo abortions (85.5%) are unmarried. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
Many women pass through the family planning door because they don't have a supportive partner to help them raise children.
An ally of the pro-life movement recently told me that after visiting hundreds of pregnancy support centers across the country, they found that the number one reason women seek abortions is a lack of father support or involvement. It is said that They didn't want to face motherhood alone. As a mother, I can empathize with them. Parenting is not a walk in the park. It's hard work, but having my husband by my side makes all the difference. While there is no justification for taking a life, I can understand a mother's concern and fear.
Since then, more than 63 million babies have been aborted. Roe vs. Wadeimagine how many women would have chosen life if fathers had stood up and taken responsibility for their children.
It is vile, unmanly, and selfish to give up the mother of your baby and your own flesh and blood on the altar of sexual, childless “freedom.” Boys are not responsible for their actions, but real men are.
Sexual “freedom” has come at a greater cost to men, women, and ultimately children than our culture allows.
