Family comments can sometimes really cross the line.
This story is about a woman who moved to another country with her husband and was immediately met with constant remarks about her weight from her in-laws. They kept saying she’d get chubby and even suggested she buy larger clothes before the move.
Initially, she did gain some weight, but she decided to take action to feel better about herself—only her in-laws didn’t stop their unsolicited comments.
Let’s dive deeper into this family drama.
I’m 23 and moved abroad with my husband, who’s 28, about a year ago. Before we left, my mother-in-law and sister-in-law were always making comments. They said without hesitation that I would gain weight once we got there. They’d say things like, “Just wait until you move; everyone gains weight,” and “You should buy bigger clothes now.”
Despite her initial laughter at their remarks, she did gain 13 pounds after relocating.
In the beginning, I brushed it off and said I’d try to stay active and eat normally. They seemed to think it was unavoidable to gain weight in that environment. To be honest, I did put on about 13 pounds during those first few months. It was a whole new country—lots of stress, dining out more, and adjusting my routine.
Feeling uncomfortable, she made a decision to lose weight and adjust her habits.
Eventually, I just felt uncomfortable in my body. I decided to make changes for myself. I gradually started cooking more and walked a lot. I lost a total of around 33 pounds. A part of my motivation was definitely to prove them wrong. Their comments really annoyed me.
But now, her in-laws say she’s too thin and might be developing unhealthy habits.
Now my mother-in-law keeps saying I look too skinny. She worries people will think my husband isn’t feeding me and that he’s starving me. It’s absurd. My husband has been incredibly supportive throughout. He just wants to make sure I’m healthy and happy, and he’s concerned about me not becoming obsessed with my weight or food.
Now she’s questioning if her motivations have been a bit petty.
Just for context, I eat normally. I’m not underweight or anything extreme. I’m currently at 132 pounds and 5 foot 4 inches tall. I wonder if I’ve been a bit petty about this whole thing. Part of my motivation was simply to prove them wrong after all those months of body comments.
Honestly, those comments from her in-laws were neither helpful nor necessary to begin with. They were the ones focused on labeling her as someone who would gain weight, and then when she lost it, they switched their narrative to her being too thin. What exactly do they expect from her?
In a way, this transformation feels quite satisfying, don’t you think?
