Dear Abby:

I’m an 80-year-old man, recently retired and in decent health. My wife is about the same age. We recently got a surprising request from our 50-year-old son. He sold his company, valued between $7 million and $8 million, and now claims he’s short on cash, which might impact his sales leverage.

While we do have some savings, we’re a bit hesitant to drain our accounts for investments. We’re not struggling financially, but we’re debating whether we should feel upset about this pre-inheritance request. I’ve never dealt with something like this before, and I wonder about its legitimacy. Should I bring our other kids into the conversation? This situation affects them too. – Surprised in Texas

Dear Surprised:

The people you need to consult here are your attorney, CPA, or financial advisor. It’s advisable to involve your other children at this stage, as miscommunication could lead to bigger issues down the line.

Dear Abby:

My wife has consistently undermined me. She dominates our son and his kids, and when it comes to my needs, she simply ignores them. Counseling is something I pursue, but she refuses to join me. She won’t cook for me or do anything simple to make my life easier, only complaining and picking fights.

Currently, she’s let our son, who struggles with addiction, and his two small children move in with us. It’s a chaotic environment, and I feel no peace at home. Despite everything, I’ve remained devoted for 25 years, even though it feels like I’m always rejected. She never addressed her past toxic relationships, and I didn’t realize how deep the issues ran. I really need someone who can love me back. – Alone in Michigan

Dear Alone:

You mention attending counseling regularly. What does your therapist say about your situation? If they’re suggesting you stay in this unhappy environment, it might be time for a new therapist.

Dear Abby:

I’m an energetic 69-year-old and work as a housekeeper at a hospital, which often brings comments about my pace. Previously, in my roles as a waitress and bartender, this kind of attention was rare.

Now, I often hear remarks like, “You’re not walking fast!” or even “Run, run, run, where’s the fire?” Interestingly, I’ve never heard anything similar directed at doctors or nurses. Perhaps it’s a reflection of my age. Comments about my walking speed are starting to bother me. I’m actually considering making a t-shirt that says, “Yes, I’m walking fast!” to respond.

Abby, what are your thoughts? Are there any quick, witty comebacks I could use against these rude folks? – Canadian Speedy Gal

Dear Speedy Gal:

It’s possible these individuals aren’t truly being rude, but rather it’s a reflection of their own feelings. Instead of looking for ways to respond negatively, just keep walking at your pace and smile. If you feel the need to say something, you could respond with, “This is how I get the job done,” and keep moving forward.

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