Crying at Work: A Mixed Bag of Opinions

The BBC has recently explored how people feel about crying in the workplace and the potential judgment that can follow it. Some readers shared their experiences, noting that, while many do cry at work, there are still lingering attitudes that can be somewhat judgmental.

Clara, a 48-year-old from Lancaster, recounted a time early in her career when she cried after receiving upsetting news from home. It was an emotional moment that led to her leaving her job. “It was a tough time,” she reflected.

Another perspective comes from Emma, who described her experiences working in a “difficult male-dominated environment.” She felt pressured to suppress her emotions, perceiving vulnerability as a form of weakness.

The BBC’s feedback revealed a contrast between men and women in emotional expression at work. Guy Clayton, a London-based doctor, shared that he has cried with patients, colleagues, and family, emphasizing that it’s part of human connection. Meanwhile, a 38-year-old finance professional said he often felt he needed to appear strong, though he acknowledged that emotions can still surface during tough times.

Shelleen Hoban, an executive coach, suggested that society is shifting away from the traditional view that professionalism requires emotional suppression. “Emotional intelligence is now seen as a strength,” she noted.

Career coach Georgia Blackburn added that while it may not be typical for people to express sadness at work, employers who are compassionate tend to create happier and more motivated staff. This understanding could indeed be key to employee retention.

Amy Powney, a fashion designer, openly embraced her emotional side. “I see crying as a way to reclaim my feelings,” she stated, arguing that women in leadership should not shy away from showing their emotions, as it can be a source of strength.

However, Ann Frank, CEO of the Chartered Management Institute, pointed out that societal expectations can still be harsh. Women are often labeled as “too emotional,” while men expressing feelings might be seen as weak. Interestingly, senior staff might find themselves under tighter scrutiny than junior employees when it comes to emotional displays.

Frank reflected on the reaction to senior leaders shedding tears, suggesting that authenticity often leads to powerful moments that humanize leadership. She shared some recommendations for handling tears in the workplace, such as allowing short breaks and acknowledging emotions rather than pretending they don’t exist.