Dear Abby

My mother passed away last year, and my father, who is 90, is taking some time to prepare their home and vacation place for sale. It’s certainly not easy—there’s a lot of stuff, a lot of hoarding. The property has its charm, and the neighbors in the area come by often to chat with me and my dad.

Since this property holds some value, several neighbors have expressed interest in buying it. Although my father hasn’t signed any contracts, he has verbally promised things he likely can’t deliver. I’ve got a power of attorney in hand and have made it clear that no decisions will happen without my go-ahead.

With limited time to get things in order, I’d like to dedicate my few available days to cleaning up. But these neighbors stop by so frequently, making it hard to concentrate. There’s really more work involved than I initially thought, and it’s definitely taking longer than expected.

Many of these folks have been part of my parents’ lives and, by extension, mine, so I can’t help but feel it’d be rude to just ask them to leave us alone while we work. I’d appreciate some advice on how to express my need for space without being offensive. Additionally, how can I kindly tell them to stop inquiring about the sale? I plan to go the conventional route, not anything shady. Feeling overwhelmed

Dear Overwhelmed: If moving forward is your priority, this might be the moment to set some boundaries. When the neighbors come by, smile and kindly let them know that you’re short on time because you have a lot to do for the property’s sale. You can then refer anyone interested to a real estate agent or lawyer who can assist them.

Dear Abby

I’m engaged to a wonderful woman—smart, beautiful, and loyal. I couldn’t ask for more. We’re looking forward to getting married next year, but I have a concern. She has some noticeable facial hair, and I’m unsure how to bring it up without hurting her feelings. What’s the best way to approach this without sounding sarcastic? A light walk through Florida

To Mr. Tread: It’s not uncommon for women to have some facial hair, like mustaches or chin hair. Many might not even realize others notice. Since you’ll soon be married, it might be best to discuss it gently and privately. Avoid making any comments that could sound dismissive or mocking, like joking about shared attributes.

There are options available for hair removal, such as waxing or electrolysis. I hesitate to mention shaving as it can lead to a daily routine, though some women do it effectively. A friend mentioned that shaving helps with dead skin cell removal, which makes applying makeup easier, but it’s a commitment.

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