Dear Abby: Concerns About Inheritance

My grandmother passed away about 16 years ago. Before her death, she informed me and my two kids about their college funds. After she died, my aunt took charge of the will, but the children never received anything, and my aunt hasn’t shown me the will.

I heard my grandmother asked my aunt if she had submitted the will to the court, and my aunt claimed she did. However, when I checked, there was no will on file. Now that I’m living with my aunt, how can I discuss my child’s inheritance without sparking any family conflict? I feel it’s important, especially for Georgia.

Dear Reader: If you were mentioned in your grandmother’s will, you should have a right to see it. It sounds like your aunt is going against your grandmother’s wishes, which is just wrong. Unfortunately, you might have to brace yourself for some uncomfortable discussions. If it’s feasible, consider reaching out to a lawyer about this situation. Hopefully, there’s still some money left for the kids after all this time.

Dear Abby: Fireplace Dilemma

My husband and I live in a condo where we enjoy burning wood fires when it gets cool. It’s cozy and helps heat our living room, but one neighbor has complained about the smoke. She struggles with lung problems and says she can’t even open a window because of it. She’s asked us to stop using the fireplace, hinting that it could affect our friendship.

We’ve kept the fireplace clean and even put in a larger flue, but the issue persists. Strangely, we haven’t received any complaints from other neighbors. What should we say to her? What are our obligations in this situation? — Two fireplace-loving seniors

Dear Two: It sounds like your neighbor is genuinely suffering. Smoke from a fireplace can indeed impact someone’s breathing. Your responsibilities here might hinge on empathy; if you feel for her situation, perhaps consider investing in an electric heater (there are many affordable ones). It might be a good idea to ease her discomfort and appreciate that you don’t face her challenges.

Dear Abby: Age Confusion

A few years back, I had plastic surgery. I don’t think I need to share this with anyone, but when people ask my age, it can seem like I’m not being totally honest. I don’t usually lie about my age, but it feels a bit awkward sometimes. How should I handle these questions? — Looking youthful in New Jersey

Dear Young Looking Reader: You could respond, “Thanks for the compliment! I wash my face with soap and water before bed and use moisturizer in dry weather—might want to try that too.” Remember, it’s perfectly okay to sidestep questions that make you uncomfortable.