That’s Enough!
A perspective from a single woman on married friends being “self-centered” has been making waves online, and, well, maybe she’s onto something.
Ashanti, sharing her insights on @unpunishablewomen, has created a variety of TikTok videos discussing the realities of being single. Among these, one particular video struck a chord with many single women.
This reminds me of that classic moment in *Sex and the City*. You know, when Carrie realizes how women preparing for marriage or motherhood have gift registries, and wonders why single women can’t have something similar? It’s a thought that lingers.
Ashanti, in her video, highlighted a common frustration: married women often don’t invest the same time or energy into their single friends’ lives. “Single women are expected to just be understanding, to support their married friends during major life transitions,” she explains, noting how this expectation can feel one-sided.
She goes on to say that single women are often pulled into participating in events like bachelorette parties and baby showers for their married friends. It’s a frustrating cycle that many can relate to. “We’re there for their milestones—pregnancies, weddings, and more—and yet, when it comes to our own achievements, we often find ourselves overlooked,” she elaborates.
Ashanti notes that when single women meet with married friends, the latter often seem distracted, their focus diverted away from the actual conversation.
Thousands of other single women echoed her sentiments in the comments, highlighting this recurring theme in adult friendships.
“Single women make sacrifices for others, yet rarely receive anything in return,” one commenter remarked, emphasizing a palpable frustration. Another added that checking in on friends should be mutual, cautioning that being pregnant doesn’t diminish single women’s accomplishments.
Some have shared the realization that opening up to married friends often leads nowhere meaningful, as conversations quickly shift back to the married friends’ lives. “It’s frustrating to see them scrolling on their phones while you just want a moment of genuine connection,” one woman expressed.
