Kristi Noem’s husband, Brian, shared with Mistresses that he enjoys being harsh towards his family, yet suggested that Kristi could become a “great woman.”
According to messages revealed by a sex worker, Shai Sotomayor, Brian Noem engaged in explicit phone conversations that raked in considerable sums. At least one of these chats included a girlfriend referring to Brian’s family as “disgusting.”
“What’s so bad about it?” Brian, using the alias Crystalballz666 in these exchanges, asked.
“Your family,” Sotomayor retorted.
Brian then inquired, “That’s great. Do you really think it’s disgusting?” during a conversation with the Mistress.
“I see. That’s right,” she responded, alluding to Kristi and their three children.
When asked for clarification on why she found them disgusting, she stated, “Apart from the fact of who your wife is, there is no one more beautiful than me. There is no one stronger than me.”
“Absolutely true,” Brian replied.
In a conversation from November 2025, he told Sotomayor of his desire to transition into a woman.
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Sotomayor sent a supportive message, claiming, “I think you’ll be a wonderful woman.”
“I would agree with you. Hair loss. Huge fake boobs. Butt implants. Hormones,” he proudly continued, noting that a transformation might be evident by 2026.
Brian also expressed his wish to be Sotomayor’s “transgender slut,” adopting the name “Crystal” and fantasized about living apart from his family.
Despite his acknowledgment of their family’s “disgusting” label, he seemed to defend Kristi in other exchanges.
“I like my wife,” he stated, to which Sotomayor bluntly replied, “She’s not very likable.”
Brian’s hidden life as a member of the “sex appeal” fetish community came to light last week when awkward photographs surfaced showing him in revealing outfits with exaggerated prosthetic breasts.
Reportedly, Brian and Sotomayor had been in contact online for several years. Kristi Noem, who lost her position as DHS secretary recently, expressed her distress, stating that the family’s reaction to the revelations was one of shock.
Sotomayor noted that their exchanges began in 2016, but communication ceased mysteriously in 2020, only to resume five years later. She later discovered Brian’s true identity after he demanded more of her time.
