Our culture has misled women, presenting the idea that abortion is the best and only solution to their problems. Instead of empowering women to embrace motherhood, society promotes abortion as a “quick fix.” However, this choice deprives them of one of the greatest joys celebrated on Mother’s Day.
As a mother of three boys, I feel deeply for women struggling to provide for their families. It’s painful to see the pressure on women who often have to shoulder the burden alone. Most heartbreaking are the women who enter family planning believing abortion is the answer to their difficulties.
The Human Coalition and Planned Parenthood encounter the same individuals seeking abortions, yet only about one in four mothers feels confident in their decision. The majority would prefer to parent if their circumstances allowed.
A message about motherhood that often goes unnoticed
It’s crucial to understand that many women seeking abortions aren’t truly convinced they want one. They often feel overwhelmed and believe they lack options. A typical woman in this situation may already be a mother and understands the value of motherhood. What she really needs isn’t abortion; it’s help overcoming the barriers that make parenting seem impossible. Removing these barriers can reveal that motherhood is indeed a possibility.
Housing instability
Your living situation plays a significant role in the decisions mothers make. Take “Maria,” for instance. After discovering she was pregnant, she had just lost her home. Forced to send her teenage son to live with his grandmother, Maria drifted from motels to emergency shelters. Since the baby’s father wasn’t involved, the burden of supporting herself and her unborn child fell solely on her shoulders.
A 2023 study by the Guttmacher Institute found that a significant number of those seeking abortions live below the federal poverty line. Within these statistics are real stories, like Maria’s, illustrating the stresses of overcrowded housing, evictions, and instability. These mothers should be informed about organizations that can assist them in addressing their needs, rather than just focusing on family planning.
Childcare and employment challenges
Additionally, a mother’s job situation can complicate things further. For single mothers, having a flexible schedule can be crucial.
A 2026 study led by Stanford University revealed that when both partners work from home at least a day a week, women tend to have more children compared to couples where neither works remotely. The findings suggest that remote work might account for around 291,000 births a year in the U.S. Flexibility in work allows mothers to have children and potentially more of them.
Personally, I have flexible hours, which means I can take my kids to school and pick them up. Beyond workplace flexibility, my family benefits from community support. A young member from our church helps me with the kids twice a week, and there are others who pitch in as needed. None of this requires government aid. It truly takes a village, which once felt like the norm in America—a norm we should strive to rebuild.
I feel for all the mothers struggling to secure reliable childcare. The tension between wanting to be there for their children and needing to work is palpable. This deserves a real solution, not just a culture that hands them a referral to abortion and calls it compassion.
Healthcare access challenges
Every mother should have access to compassionate, life-affirming healthcare.
Many of our vulnerable women, especially those living in rural areas, face limited healthcare access. Such women experience higher pregnancy-related complications than the national average.
Fortunately, pro-life organizations are stepping up to support these mothers. In today’s digital age, we can quickly connect with mothers and offer them the care they need.
When women reach out to Human Coalition, they’re connected to a nurse who offers care and guidance during moments of stress. These calls give women a chance to ask questions, voice their concerns, and receive encouragement during their pregnancies.
Women seeking abortions have been misinformed for years. They are led to believe that abortion will simplify their lives. The harsh reality is that, while abortion can lead to significant emotional and physical distress, it does not address the root causes that drive women to consider it in the first place.
If we truly want to broaden women’s choices, we need to start by meeting them where they are and supporting them in their journey to embrace one of the most significant roles they can have: motherhood.
