The New York Times recently reported on a new trend that some anxious parents are embracing for their children's sake instead of letting them have sleepovers.They are called “sleep under” or “late over”
The concept is perhaps a new style of playdate somewhere in between, for kids whose parents don't want to miss out on hanging out with friends, but also don't want to spend the whole night at someone else's house.
of Exit It's called “Sleep Under,” a hangout where “kids come to play but don't stay asleep.”
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The New York Times reported that parents are increasingly allowing their children to go on “sleepers” (stays at a friend's house until late at night, but no sleepovers are allowed).
Citing an example of a parent who prefers this social style for their children, the Times writes, “Carnice F. “But she wants to.” She wants her children to experience a normal childhood, so she's willing to let them attend parties if she can take them home at bedtime, even if it's at 2 or 3 a.m. I decided. ”
Armstrong said the situation was a “good compromise” and at least better than saying no to the kids outright.
The mother said she has allowed each of her three children to be late about 10 to 12 times. The paper described the additional protocols required for Mr. Armstrong to approve the night. “First she calls her parents and asks them who's going to be there, if they have a gun, what they're going to do that evening. Then she goes inside the drop-off area and calls her parents and I say hello to everyone there.”
Christy Keating, a licensed parenting coach in the Seattle area, told the Times that the new style of playdates comes as parents these days are increasingly anxious and sensitive to issues such as sexual abuse and gun violence. He said that it reflects the current state of affairs.
The outlet also cited a Pew Research study from last year that found “nearly half of American parents say they are overprotective.”
Mr. Armstrong's children, on the other hand, were less enthusiastic about the setup. The eldest son, now 20, told the Times that when he was young, his limited sleepovers “clearly made him feel very alienated.”
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He recalled that he “didn't want to be the only kid who had to go early” and said, “I would have felt better if the other kids' parents had done the same.”
Sarah Schoppe Sullivan, a family psychology professor at Ohio State University, suggested that children are missing out by not going to sleepovers, also known as slumber parties. She told the outlet: “Sleepovers are a pretty normative part of American children's culture, and they give kids an opportunity for real independence.”
Professor Schopf-Sullivan points out that parents who are “overly cautious” about sleepovers “often become overly cautious about other things as well,” raising concerns about children who are forbidden from taking risks. It added that it could cause problems.
Some concerned parents even send their children to sleepovers as long as they attend. The Times said, “Not all protective parents are there to pick up their children.'' Last March, Ms. Michaud left her family, in front of her family, with another mother and her two children at their home in Silverdale, Washington. I hosted a “Mom and Me sleepover'' with them.'' I moved to San Diego. ”
Mr Keating told the newspaper that instead of being overprotective, parents could decide for themselves what they would get out of a slumber party, such as a night off from raising children.
“This is a great way to connect with other families in exchange for babysitting,” she says.
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