Dear Abbey: I have an old friend who lives for one hour. I visit her that day and go home. I have never invited her to spend the night at my house, and I do not expect she to invite me to stay out when I go to see her.
She arrived at 9 am, the last two times she visited me. She was hoping to sit all day all day. She refused to do anything except to eat and talk. I'm not a sitter, and I hate doing it, but she's a good friend, so I endure it. At around 5 pm, she brought her luggage in hopes of going to the car and spending the night. Then we stayed at midnight and she was able to speak a little more.
Can you tell her that she wants to go home at the end of the day? She has met a psychiatrist for 50 years. She sounds like just going to talk. She is afraid of everything and has no hobbies or other interests. What can I do to end her stay overnight without hurt her or sent her to a meltdown? – Step on the west lightly
Dear step -in: You are not responsible for this woman's mental health. She seems to have used you as a supplementary (unpaid) therapist. The next time she wants to come to another marathon talk session, I want to meet her around 1 pm, but I can't enjoy the past five times. There is nothing unless you create a border. You will burst with her.
Dear Abbey: I am a 43 -year -old woman who cannot have a child. This is difficult, but I have a great mother, a friend, and my mother. I am looking forward to celebrating them on Mother's Day. But every year on Mother's Day, I have a hard time. The stranger is assumed to be overwhelmed by the family for the fact that I am my mother and I am not alone. I was told “Thank you” and I assumed that I was a mom, so I was given a dress and flowers at the restaurant. My family gave me a “great aunt” gift to celebrate this opportunity.
I haven't talked to anyone about my birth rate struggle because it's so difficult and painful. I understand and thank everyone's kindness, but I have a hard time telling me that I'm okay with what is not recognized. I feel that it is cruel to disclose my medical diagnosis to others so that I can leave it on a holiday that has nothing to do with me. How do you tell people to leave me? -The mother of New York is not
A dear mother: You are not the only one who encounters this problem every Mother's Day. You do not need to convey the message in words. Go online and search for buttons that include the message “Child Free”. When I saw it, I was surprised at the available diversity.
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