Dear Abby: My girlfriend I know for many years remarried her ex-husband a few years ago. When she first married him, I didn't know her.
My husband and I don't like him. The last time we met for lunch, her husband showed my husband the gun he had in his pocket!
Abby, he's an older man with his hands shaking. She continues to email me about the four of us meeting again. He is armed and has that tremble, so we are scared to meet them.
We are worried that we could accidentally go out and shoot one of us. I don't know what to say to her. Any advice? – I was scared in Texas
Dear Frightened: Keep in mind that carrying a gun is legal in Texas. Also, many guns have safety devices so they don't happen by chance.
There is a difference in fear of not liking someone and not fondling someone with an armed person.
There's no need to sacrifice long friendship with this woman. If you don't want to see them as a couple, gather separately with her.
Dear Abby: My son and his wife stopped talking to my husband and me as I gave them covid.
At their invitation we traveled with them to Hawaii. I started to feel sick on the plane and the next day I tested positive.
A few days later, my son got sick, and a few days later his wife got it. I repeatedly told them how sorry I said I had infected them and ruined their vacation.
We were always close to each other, with frequent calls, visits, dinner, etc., but there was nothing for the past 6 weeks.
He said I was furious with my brother because I tried to “kill” them. If anything, I'm at a loss as to what to do. What does Dear Abby do? – Conviction in California
Dear Convict: What Dear Abby does is give your son a time to cool him down and then reach out to him again to apologize.
He needs to grow. You did not intentionally make anyone sick, and it could have been easy for your son or stepdaughter to infect you.
Dear Abby: I've been in love with a man for over 30 years. We've never been married, but he calls me his wife. I know about his affair and accept him as it is.
I am also involved in the father of my youngest child. I'm caught between the two and can't find an exit.
My child's father provides financially, but emotionally, the 30-year-old guy is the person I want. My problem is that he doesn't commit. Please help. – torn in Washington
Dear tone: If any of these two men wanted to get married, it would have happened many years ago.
If you want someone to build a stable future, look for someone who can give them more stability than these two “prizes.”
Find a man who is happy to be available. Now you're just treading on the water.
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