Dear Abby: Since my husband and I got married four years ago, his aversion to the LGBTQ community has intensified. He frequently labels it as immoral and unnatural. I haven’t tried to change his views, but I can’t help but feel I might be condemned since I somewhat agree with him. He often uses our conversations to express these opinions, which is… well, memorable.
Not long after we wed, my dad came out as gay. Happily, my husband treats him kindly despite his discontent with my dad’s orientation. I’m not sure if Dad is fully aware of how my husband feels since they don’t see each other often due to living in different states.
Now, my dad recently got engaged to his partner, and I’m at a loss about how to share this news with my husband. I haven’t pushed him to accept my father’s lifestyle, but I don’t want him to ruin my happiness related to this event or show disapproval at their wedding. I’d definitely attend on my own. What do you think, Abby? – Michigan Allies
Dear Allies: I do have some advice for you. It’s clear that this situation is broader than it seems. Dismissing your husband’s feelings isn’t a way forward for your marriage. Although your father’s orientation may be appalling to him, it’s not “unnatural.” If you want to support your dad at his wedding, please do. You shouldn’t feel guilty for loving and accepting him during such a crucial time. In fact, you will not be condemned for that; rather, you’re doing the right thing.
Dear Abby: We had been friends with a couple for years, but recently, some items went missing from their house. Now, our long-standing friendship feels broken because I suspect they took them. They seem to have moved on, saying it’s all “in the past,” but we just can’t. They don’t understand why we can’t be friends again without an apology. Are we being too sensitive? – New Hampshire’s Innocence
Dear Innocence: No, you’re not. Given that you haven’t received an apology for that wrongful accusation, it’s understandable that you feel upset and are unwilling to move forward.
Dear Abby: I had a misunderstanding with my stepdaughter-in-law, which led to an apology from me. But since then, she blocked me and told our mutual friends to avoid family gatherings. At a recent funeral for a family friend, I noticed she seemed quiet and uncomfortable. She barely acknowledged me until it was time to leave. Should I confront her about why she blocked me or just let it be? – Confused in Texas
Dear Confusion: Your stepdaughter-in-law seems to be easing up a bit. In your case, it might be best to just let this sleeping dog lie.
