Dear Abby

My young daughter and I spent three months visiting my parents while my husband was deployed. It was a wonderful time, but I noticed something concerning: my parents seemed to be on their phones more than ever. They’re in their mid-60s and retired, which is great for keeping up with technology, I guess, but I worry about how this screen time might affect their social lives and mental sharpness as they age. Back when I was growing up, we didn’t have a TV or a computer in the living room, and our screen time was quite limited. Family dinners were a daily tradition where conversation flowed naturally.

During our visit, my parents often brought their phones to the dinner table. They’d check messages or browse online right during meals. I’d catch them glued to the screen when I looked up from my activities. It felt so different from how they raised me. How can I express my concerns and encourage them to cut back on their phone usage? I sensed a change in Washington.

For those reflecting on this: Yes, times have changed since your youth. But don’t think about trying to parent your parents. It probably won’t work and might even create some resentment, as they are adults and not impressionable kids learning about social interactions.

Dear Abby

My college roommate and I became pretty close. I always found him a bit arrogant, and when I noticed his anger because a girl liked me, not him, it hit me that he was constantly in comparison mode.

We had a falling out at 30 after starting at the same company. I suspect he’s unhappy with me, but I don’t want to be friends anymore. We’re now 36 and still see each other occasionally during fantasy football leagues and are generally polite.

Now he’s reaching out to rekindle our friendship and inviting me to hang out. I wish he’d dropped a hint beforehand since I’ve been making excuses to avoid him. I’m worried that I’ll have to tell him again that I’m not interested in reviving things. I’d rather not hurt his feelings more than necessary. I need some advice. — I don’t feel it in Kansas.

For those who don’t feel it: You’re not obligated to maintain a relationship beyond what you want. If your only interactions occur during fantasy football, it’s not challenging to steer clear of him. If he asks to hang out, continue staying busy as you have. Eventually, he may take the hint.