Reddit users weren't wrong to bring this up because they were angry that their spouse refused to learn to cook or even develop basic meal preparation skills. said a family therapist and other users of the platform.
“Did AITA disagree with his wife's idea of not learning to cook?” asked a Reddit user named “Significant_Tree3606” in a post on the “Am I the –hole” (AITA) page this week.
In the post, the person spoke about a difficult marriage.
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The poster said that even though her spouse is “very picky,” she “believes she doesn't need to help with cooking or meal preparation, and she doesn't need to help with cleaning up other than dishes.” Ta.
Part of this is due to the spouse's upbringing, including the need to “do no housework” and have a maid in the house during childhood, the authors said.
A Reddit user was irritated after his spouse (not pictured) “threw a tantrum” after being asked to learn basic cooking skills. (St. Petersburg)
“She has never learned to cook and can't boil water,” one Reddit poster wrote.
“Even though I explained it to her, she just loses patience,” the writer also said.
“She lasts about two minutes and then leaves or throws a tantrum that she doesn’t want to learn from. [that] It's supposed to be just me [one] Who in this house has to know how to cook,” the poster said.
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This came to mind for me the other night, after a long week at work, when my wife, who doesn't cook, complained that we hadn't spent enough time together that week.
“She lasts about two minutes and then either walks away or throws a tantrum that she doesn't want to learn from.”
“I suggested we cook together so she could spend time with us and learn,” Significant_Tree3606 said. “I thought it would be cute if we made a recipe together.” [had] never [eaten] in front. “
This didn't work, the writer said.
“She had a seizure,” she said. The behavior continued throughout the night, even after Significant_Tree3606 asked her spouse to clean the grill rack and put away the spices, she said.
The Reddit user asked his wife (not pictured) to help prepare dinner, and the woman “threw a fit” in response. (St. Petersburg)
“Eventually she stopped screaming and complaining and put some things away. I gave them to her. [a] We still had some cleaning to do, so this was the first plate we were going to enjoy,” one Reddit user said.
In addition to cooking, the author described herself as “taking care of all the bills and yard work, as well as doing some 'handyman' work,” while her spouse “washed the dishes, I’ll put away the laundry,” he said.
The author's friends sided with her, saying that having a partner who demands different meals and refuses to help in any meaningful way is unacceptable.
“It’s important for them to have honest conversations.”
“Am I a crazy person to want my girlfriend to learn to cook or at least help set up the kitchen?” she asked the others.
One therapist told FOX News Digital that while it's not wrong to want your spouse to help in the kitchen, it's “surprising.” [the couple] I didn't address this issue before getting married. ”
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“That being said, with them in this situation right now, it's important to have an honest conversation about household responsibilities and how to divide them in a way that both of you feel comfortable with and avoids resentment.” said Rachel Goldberg of LMFT. The founder of Rachel Goldberg Therapy in Los Angeles told Fox News Digital in an email.
If a resistant spouse continues to refuse to learn to cook, “she might come up with an alternative where she takes on other responsibilities to provide balance,” says Goldberg.
The therapist told Fox News Digital that the couple in question (not pictured) should “honestly discuss family responsibilities” to avoid future resentment and problems. (St. Petersburg)
She also said that Reddit writers need to acknowledge that their spouse “obviously doesn't want to cook and doesn't want to learn how, so trying to change her isn't productive.” “Instead, the focus should be on finding a compromise that works for both parties.”
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Additionally, the author might want to find out why the spouse has such a strong reaction to cooking.
“If she's having tantrums, there may be a deeper issue than just not learning to cook or not hiring a maid,” Goldberg said. [while] growing up. “
“There may be a deeper problem than simply not learning how to cook or not being trained as a maid.”
“Understanding what's behind her reluctance may provide insight into how she can make a different contribution.”
Reddit users largely agreed with the therapist's take on the matter.
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Most of the more than 2,200 responses to this home drama said that Reddit users weren't wrong for wanting their spouses to learn to cook.
Reddit users were very supportive of the cooking issue post. (St. Petersburg)
“You can't make your wife grow up and act like an adult, but you can stop coddling her just because she throws a tantrum,” one Reddit user said in the top reply to the post.
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The same person said, “She needs to understand basic life skills. What was once cute and quirky in relationships gets old quickly.”
Another Redditor said: “She literally treats you like a maid.”
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The same commenter continued, “You do all the work while she expects you to sit and watch TV and she throws a tantrum when asked to lift a finger.” .
The person added, “You're not her wife, you're her nanny.”
Fox News Digital reached out to the original poster on Reddit for the latest information.
