How do I tell my wife she’s obese?

Dear Abby: I am writing this because my wife has lost interest in her appearance. I love her but I don’t know how to tell her that she has become obese. She seems to think her appearance is fine.

I know I can’t say anything unless she gets extremely upset, so I’m having trouble figuring out how to get her to understand that being obese is not only bad for your health, but also bad for your appearance. Could she please suggest a way to approach women without getting into deep trouble with them?I’m sure other men (and women) are in a similar situation. please let me know. — worried husband

Dear Husband: Your message may not be as well-received if you focus solely on it. health Her weight gain aspect. Encourage her to see a doctor, start exercising (with you if necessary), and adopt a healthy diet. both You say, “Because I love her and want to enjoy many more happy years together.”

Dear Abby: My husband does not have a good relationship with his son and his wife. They want nothing to do with him and don’t want him near his grandchildren because of his actions. My husband told me that I should be there for him and teach them that what they are doing is wrong and that he would never do or say anything bad in front of people on the ground. I’m saying.

My son and his wife made a decision. When I text them or visit, fights break out in the house because he is not welcome. Now, my husband wants me to choose between standing by her husband and not having anything to do with the kids, or choosing the kids and not having anything to do with him anymore. Masu. How fair is it to have to make such a choice? — Torn in Florida

Dear Tone: Fairness has nothing to do with it. Your husband is trying to blackmail you into interfering with her son. The time has come to decide whether it is more important to have a relationship with your son, his wife, and his grandchildren, or to continue a relationship with your controlling and obnoxious husband. Keep doing what you’re doing and criticize his bluff. Because leaving you can be more complicated and expensive than your husband realizes.

Dear Abby: My relatives recently moved to my state and they want to get together more than I would like. It took this person over a year to prepare for his move, he didn’t plan ahead for a lot of the work, and now he feels overwhelmed, needy, whining and complaining constantly. .

I am currently being asked for information about a number of personal services that I use. It’s difficult for me to have a conversation with my relatives because they don’t listen when I talk to them. Do you have any suggestions on how to limit my interactions with this person other than not making or answering calls? — keep yourself

Dear Parents: If your relative has a computer or cell phone, email or text them a list of resources they can use to familiarize themselves with the community. (I’m thinking of pharmacies, dry cleaners, specialty stores, etc.) And after that, it’s all about being “busy.” very busy.

Dear Abby was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Dear Abby, contact: or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.



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