Dear Abby Responses

Dear Abby: I came across a letter in your column from a woman whose partner is cheating. I can relate. I spent 25 years with a man who flirted with others, both before and after we married. I voiced my feelings often; it hurt to see him behave that way. His reply? I was “too sensitive,” and I needed to get over it.

Fast forward two decades—I’ve learned to stand up for myself! I eventually filed for divorce. My grown daughter mentioned that he cried when he realized I was gone. Now, I’m happily married to a man who loves me and truly values me. My advice to others in similar situations is simple: pack your things, leave, and don’t look back. – I found my self-esteem

Dear Discovery: Some individuals cheat because they constantly need reassurance of their attractiveness. Their insecurities can be endless. This destructive behavior deeply impacts their partner. I’m really glad you recognized the issue wasn’t you and found the strength to move on. You deserve happiness, and I’m sure you make your current husband as happy as he makes you.

Dear Abby: As a baby boomer and a budding genealogist, I find it frustrating how little interest my grandchildren show in our family history. They hardly ask about life in the 1950s and 60s, focusing mainly on their own experiences.

When I was their age, I loved hearing my grandparents’ stories from the turn of the century. My grandkids don’t seem to appreciate that these tales could add so much depth to their understanding of family. Any tips on how to spark their interest in this important aspect? – Texas Historian

Dear Historian: Unless your grandchildren become curious later in life, they may not seek out these stories. However, perhaps you could start chronicling your experiences now. Consider keeping a diary or writing for a publication. If your family isn’t keen on preserving these stories, local historical societies might be very interested in them along with any photos you’re willing to share.

Dear Abby: I’m feeling quite annoyed with “friends” who only reach out to me on speakerphone while I’m driving, shopping, or rushing around. I’d never do that to them, and it makes me feel like an afterthought. How should I address this? – Feeling Disrespectful in Colorado

Dear I Don’t Know: Here’s a thought: simply tell them you’d prefer they call when they’re home and not distracted.