Jesse James Decker on Marriage and Communication
Jesse James Decker, who has been with her husband for almost 15 years, shares that maintaining a happy marriage doesn’t hinge on grand romantic gestures.
In an exclusive conversation, the singer and entrepreneur mentioned that a cozy night at home is often better for them, especially given their hectic schedules.
“We don’t stress too much about the holidays,” Decker noted, partnering with AbbVie’s Love in Mind Initiative to raise awareness about migraine impacts. “Just because it’s Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean you have to have roses and champagne.”
As they navigate parenting, with their youngest approaching two years old, Decker feels the celebration of milestones has shifted for them.
“Our baby will be two soon; it feels surreal,” she remarked. “One minute he wasn’t walking, and now he’s a little toddler.”
Finding quiet moments together is vital for their connection, instead of relying solely on the idea of date nights.
“It sounds cheesy, but we tell each other we love each other every day,” she admitted. “That’s why we don’t need extravagant celebrations on special occasions.”
“We do our best to carve out time together, even if it’s just watching a show while the kids sleep. We’re homebodies now,” she said, laughing, “We like to just relax in our pajamas.”
Rather than pinpointing a single moment, Decker attributes her fulfilling marriage to shared priorities with Eric, a former NFL player.
“When you focus on what truly matters, it helps set you up for success,” she explained, highlighting how their bond has remained a steady presence amid life’s changes.
Instead of pursuing perfection, Decker believes that having shared values allows them to adapt while keeping their connection intact.
“We see the world similarly, love the same things, and want to raise our kids with the same values,” she shared. “When life throws something at us, we face it together.”
Decker and Eric are parents to Denver, Vivian, Eric (“Bubby”), and Forrest.
In an industry known for fleeting relationships, Decker acknowledged the significance of their long-lasting union.
“I can’t believe we’re nearing 15 years together—that’s like 40 years in Hollywood,” she joked.
This commitment to communication and mutual support also motivates Decker to highlight the challenges chronic migraines can impose on relationships through the Love in Mind Initiative.
She pointed out that migraines are often misunderstood due to the lack of visible symptoms, which can strain relationships if not addressed.
“When someone says they’re in pain, it’s crucial to listen,” Decker emphasized. “Treat others how you’d want to be treated.”
She called attention to the importance of believing and supporting your partner, especially when struggles aren’t evident.
Decker expressed gratitude for Eric’s support during her health issues but acknowledged that not everyone has that luxury.
“I feel fortunate that Eric has been there through it all. Not everyone has that,” she said. “It’s essential to find your routine and support system to handle these challenges seriously.”
