Dear Abby: Market Embarrassment

My boyfriend got really embarrassed when he asked me to apologize to a woman in line at the market. I had dashed off to grab something I forgot while he was about to pay for our groceries. It really only took a minute, but I guess the order was still ringing up.

When I got back to add my item, he loudly told the woman to “apologize.” I couldn’t believe it. I thought he was still waiting for me while I went to get mustard. It felt like he was making a big deal out of nothing.

This isn’t the first time he’s acted like this. Honestly, I didn’t think I had done anything wrong. If I had, he could have just told me privately. Instead, I felt like a child being scolded. If I had been off the checkout line, maybe I would see it differently, but he didn’t say that he was waiting for me. – Not a Florida Child

Dear Child: If the lines were long, then I can see how running to get mustard might cause some inconveniences. But since they weren’t, your boyfriend shouldn’t have felt embarrassed about you. This behavior has happened before, which makes me think he’s getting some sort of satisfaction from it. So consider whether you really want a future with someone who treats you this way. (Personally, I wouldn’t.)

Dear Abby: Facial Issues

I suffer from hemifacial spasms (HFS), a rare condition that causes involuntary spasms on one side of my face. There are treatments like surgery or Botox that can help, but they don’t always work. HFS affects social interaction; it can happen out of the blue and even interfere with my speech sometimes.

In my case, surgery didn’t work, so Botox is my only option. Unfortunately, it leaves one eye open and makes it difficult for me to smile naturally on one side. I’m trying to accept this facial asymmetry as my new normal, but it’s a process.

I feel self-conscious about taking pictures, but people with cameras insist on capturing moments. Can you suggest a response for those who won’t take no for an answer? – Self-Conscious in the Midwest

Dear Self-Consciousness: I have a few ideas for you. First off, not everyone is adept at handling Botox. Is your provider a dermatologist? It might be a good idea to ask questions about that.

When you explain your feelings about photo-taking, let them know it’s not just about the smile; it’s also because you feel sensitive being photographed.

Another tip: try positioning yourself in a way that your more photogenic side faces the camera. You know, like how celebrities do during photoshoots.