Dear Abby: My stepdaughter has a very opinionated opinion. Sometimes we get along well. But in the past, she upset me by accusing me of not doing the right thing. She and my son have two young children together and have full custody of the son from another mother.
I praised my grandson for caring for his sister at her birthday party and was told this wasn’t the case as he was being bullied by other girls while he stood up and watched. My grandson has gone through a lot and I was upset and told my son, “You probably need to consider the partner you have chosen!” Note, this was all done in text.
I gave my grandson help whenever it was requested. My stepdaughter is now accusing me of preferring my grandchildren to my children, but that’s not the case. We are now in a broken relationship and it seems we can’t solve it. Can you help me? – I got a broken bone in Australia
Dear Fracture: All of your grandchildren share the same father, regardless of who their mother is. Your grandson may have handled the bullying issue better than he does, but he may not know how to intervene (or he may not feel strong enough to intervene).
Without fully aware of what was going on, he would not have known the tribute he gave to the boy was unfair. But it was disgraceful and unkind to tell your son what he had done about his wife. Start apologizing to her and Your son says something so hurtful that he has lost your temper. If so, it may begin to heal the violation.
Dear Abby: I have been married for 33 years. My husband is great and treats me well. There were no problems. I recently got in touch with my first boyfriend for 40 years. We texted each day. We will also talk on the phone. All the feelings I had about him have resurfaced, but since I’m married, this is not a good thing.
I shed many tears on him (he’s married too) and I can’t stop thinking about him. Have I been with my husband I’ve been with for 33 years, or am I taking a chance with my old boyfriend? He says he still loves me and has never forgotten me. Will he divorce his wife so he will be with me? probably. I feel torn between my two lovers and like a fool. advice? – Faced with choice in the east
Dear Face: Who contacted who first? If so, why did you open Pandora’s box looking for this guy? And why did you continue to text these and call? I recommend exploring this before exploding 33 years of marriage. Will your first love marry you? who knows? Will your husband forgive you? Probably not. Do this by a licensed therapist who can help straighten the noodles strudel.
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