Dear Abby: I have been married to my husband for over 20 years. He generalizes anxiety disorders, but he is almost very nice.
In the past, he had to be hospitalized, threatening to kill someone (not me!) just like himself.
With one exception, he is 99% of his friendly and thoughtful time. He can't give affection and hasn't had sex in over 10 years.
We have seen multiple counselors over the years. I tried the medicine with my doctor. I begged, cried, talked to him, and remained single all the time.
I met a young man online who lives abroad and it was platonic for two years. Suddenly I realized I had more feelings for him than platonic.
We began to talk about love with each other. Sex was irrelevant, and we didn't exchange photos or publish them. (We are both religious.)
I said I wanted to divorce because I don't believe in cheating. My question is, were I wrong? – Make changes in Georgia
Dear changes: Since your marriage was not fixed, you did the right thing by telling your husband what you wanted.
But it's very important to move, not only do you think you know this young foreigner you've never met slowly from now.
Frankly, that's scary because catfish and romance scams are online.
Before making a romantic or financial commitment, you need to meet, get to know each other, see how each other lives, and what his friends and family look like (and vice versa). I wish you good luck, but open your eyes.
Dear Abby: I'm a divorced single mother who just bought a new home. My 23-year-old daughter came home from university a few years ago and refused to move.
I understand that the rental price is high and she saves money, but I can't live with her anymore.
Abby, we have a very different lifestyle. My daughter is a slob and refuses to respect my plea to keep her room and her bathroom (which is also our guest bathroom). Her room smells bad!
She spends her days off sitting on the phone. (She has a job and is also active in the church.)
How can I move her instead of jumping out of the steering wheel every time she disrespects me? I just want to live in peace in a neat and tidy house. – I was frustrated in Florida
Dear Frustration: You have my sympathy. Talk calmly with your daughter.
She is an adult now and her living habits are very different from yours, so you can no longer be pleased that she is with you.
Offer to help her find another location and set a date for her to go outside. If she still refuses, you may need to start a formal eviction.
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