Dear Abby: I've been looking at hair stylists for 10 years. Over the past few years I have no feeling that I have got the service I deserve.
I go to trim about every two months (it can sometimes be long to save money). She is extremely busy and sometimes delegates a “green” hairstylist to wash and blow my hair off.
I would like to thank her for giving my new hairstylist the opportunity to gain experience, but last time two different people worked on my hair in addition to her and it took an hour and a half to do some simple trim.
On top of that, she charged me an extra $10. I like to tilt everyone appropriately (something a bit for an associate, 20% go to her).
Sometimes she's a little late for bookings. When I last asked for another hairstyle, she gave her a pushback because “I wouldn't take care of it.”
You're ready to move on to a new hairstyle and a new hairstyle. What is the right way to break up with your hair stylist?
I want to do it directly, but it's annoying and she can get mad. Should I give you extra tips? – Hairy situation in California
Dear Hairy Situation: You are not a friend of this stylist. You are her client. You have all the rights to change your stylist and you should not feel guilty for doing so.
If you feel you have to give her a reason, please call or directly to tell her the truth.
If you wish, you are within your rights. It should not create malice and you don't need to give her a hint of breakup.
Dear Abby: I am a single parent and my child's grandfather (my stepfather) offered to see them at his house once a week.
I want to take him into it. Because it helps me to keep up with all my responsibility. But I'm not a father he is involved in, so I'm he he has no experience in parenting.
For example, he struggles with conflict management between children (and his own temperament).
He has no sense: I don't believe he knows what and when to feed his children. Also, his house is totally confused – he never throws away anything.
My kids enjoy spending time with him and we don't have much family so I want to develop their relationship.
How can you maximize the good and minimize the bad things in their visits? How can I support my children to do their best without my children being overwhelmed? – Mom with help
Dear Mom: Some of the issues you raise can be resolved by talking to your stepfather and telling him how you resolve conflicts between your children, when you want them to feed them and how you will resolve them.
A messy home is different from a home that can have a negative impact on their health. How bad is that?
Does the place pose a risk to your child? Is there a chance he could babysit at your home more than he?
But regarding his temperament, are you absolutely sure he won't abuse your child even if he loses it? If the answer to that question is NO, you cannot allow babysitters.
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