State of the Day
Hello, readers.
I’ve come to realize I didn’t update you all about something important.
My wife is expecting, and the due date is next Tuesday. For those who are parents, you know that can mean a surprise arrival at any moment.
I’ll be out for around two weeks, though I might squeeze in some time during the baby’s and mom’s naps to share a note with you.
A few years back, before my son’s arrival, I penned a “State of the Day” focusing on what fathers owe their families. It was exclusively for subscribers and, well, back then if emails didn’t make it through, they were lost. But today, I’m sharing that piece again.
The Father’s Debt
This was originally shared on September 18, 2024, just days before my son came into the world. I found myself deep in thought about what my father owed his family. Once the news about my impending fatherhood hit, this reflection took on a new significance.
I’m curious about your thoughts, so feel free to share in the comments or reach out via email.
Best,
Jeff
- Survive:
Death is pretty much the worst outcome. If you’re a father, staying alive is crucial.
Yes, there are unforeseen circumstances—tragedies and accidents can happen. But to be a good dad, staying alive should be a priority. You might think I’m joking, and partially, I am. Still, taking care of yourself means you’re taking care of your family too.
In this country, I find it perplexing how little emphasis is placed on the mental and physical well-being of fathers. Sure, people aren’t forming organizations to support middle-aged men, and I wouldn’t expect a day dedicated to fatherhood awareness either, which honestly seems a bit silly.
But let’s be real—it starts with the father himself. When I see fathers who are seriously overweight, I can’t help but feel both disgust and disappointment. When did that become okay? Seriously, put the junk food down.
As a father, you need to prioritize your health. We ought to be prepared for challenges—this involves both physical and mental strength. If climbing stairs leaves you gasping, how can you expect to set a good example? And how do you instill discipline when pizza constantly lures you in?
Being able to run a mile and handle some moderate weights is essential. You should also know how to handle a firearm—yes, it’s important. It’s about saying no—not just to others, but to yourself too.
I welcomed my child late in life, at almost 40. By the time they grow up, I’ll be approaching 70. That requires a certain level of fortitude, doesn’t it? We need to be capable, even in rough times.
- Provide:
A father who doesn’t provide financially is just a burden. And this can lead to children who may replicate that behavior.
When we talk about “providing,” it encompasses various responsibilities.
Today, first and foremost, fathers need to bring in money. It doesn’t matter if your partner is an influencer—get a job. Otherwise, you’re just a confused figure at best.
Next is safety. This ties back to surviving. Keep a tight grip on your finances. Skip the frivolous spending and focus on essentials. Learn self-defense. Yes, seriously, I advise you to take classes. Engage with other men. If you can’t defend yourself, how can you safeguard your family?
Know how to handle a firearm, and make sure you can fix basic things around the house. You don’t need to rebuild an engine, just know how to change a light bulb.
Finally, set a strong, positive example of what masculinity looks like. Your sons will learn from you, and your daughters will seek that quality in their partners. It’s vital, even if it sometimes feels embarrassing, like when you park poorly and your spouse tries to save face while the parking attendant isn’t having it.
But I’ve wandered off topic.
Security isn’t about incessantly proving your capabilities; it’s about reassuring that you can step up when needed.
That means providing resources, safety, and a solid role model. Get on it.
- Prosper:
This can be quite the challenge, yet it’s attainable within the broader context of life and habits.
You don’t have to be a tech mogul to find success—that would be unrealistic. The effectiveness of such individuals as fathers is debated too.
No matter where you find yourself, growth is important. You won’t see immediate results, but over time, you’ll face and overcome numerous challenges. This is an age-old duty all fathers share.
By maintaining a positive outlook, you open doors to prosperity. Maybe you’ll stumble a few times before finally succeeding. It could be in climbing the professional ladder or something else entirely.
Success also means recognizing when enough is truly enough. My uncle worked for years at a prominent corporation, making a good living. Now, he teaches math at a local high school and absolutely loves it. He thrived initially, and he thrives now. His family thrives as well.
It’s about resilience and consistently pushing forward. Thrive in all aspects.
Additional Insights
Here’s an interesting thought: Anti-Vance groups may be collaborating with unlikely allies to sway the MAGA base.
Also, there’s a take on how Trump’s humor created opportunities for media traps.
Lastly, many Americans are resorting to borrowing just to meet basic food needs. Dads, please avoid unnecessary debt.
