Women won the ‘war on marriage’ — now they miss the spoils

Despite the propaganda “pay inequality” the left makes weapons; woman They view themselves as victims, and the truth is that the sisterhood has won. The problem is that women's victory came at the expense of one thing they most want: their families.

Many men are not hostile to working women. They are not interested in marrying a woman who acts as if work is coming first.

Megyn Kelly highlighted recently Tension on the right side is rising: Young conservative women struggle to find a marriage-oriented man. The former Fox news anchor said many right-wing men avoid marrying women and careers. According to Kelly, these men view professional ambitions as a threat to traditional family life. She warned that this way of thinking could alienate outspoken conservative women in prominent work.

This argument falls at the heart of the right broader conversation about rebuilding families. I have spent years studying marriage trends, and the concerns of these female voices reflect a real dilemma. But the men don't speak any nonsense either. Many believe that career-driven women inevitably choose ambition over family. They want wives who share their priorities, not women who pursue another future.

Recent data from the Pew Research Center supports this. just 43% of Republican women When people prioritize marriage and children, say the benefits of society. That's nearly 10 points lower than Republican men. On the other hand, women are more likely to say that their careers will make their lives more fulfilled than men – 74% compared to 69%.

Men put more weight on their families. 28% of Republican men say marriage is very important or very important to a fulfilling life, compared to only 18% of women. When asked about children, 29% of men agreed, 7 points higher than their female counterparts.

Some men may oppose working women primarily, but most people want a wife who moves their family ahead of their careers. Yes, many households need two incomes. However, the current debate of rights regarding gender, marriage and fertility is far beyond money.

The word “economics” comes from the Greek “oikonomia” and means household management. The house was never intended to be a holding cell. It was supposed to serve as an engine for spiritual, social, educational and economic life.

Feminists like Gloria Steinem and Betty Friedan rejected the idea. They surrounded the house as a prison, where the women played “Hostess” and “Housekeeper” Under the thumbs of the dominant husband.

That way of thinking has changed culture. The most successful front in the gender war was not to break the glass ceiling, but to “free” women from perceived obligations to their husbands, children or homes.

This clearly does not mean that women don't contribute to the home. In most families, they make sure that meals are prepared, plans are maintained and children are showing up in practice. However, these actions are not framed public Obligation. No one is ashamed of a woman who missed the mark. There is no social penalty to opt out.

Meanwhile, the standards for men remain clear and unforgiving. For every turbulent family seen by American families over the past 50 years, society still expects men to provide and protect. Men who did not financially support their families will be branded as “Dead Beat.” The man ducking behind his wife during a street argument becomes a viral punch line.

There is nothing comparable to women. Some suggest that family development and support are equal expectations, but society rarely defines what they look like. why? Because the feminist movement has made it taboo for women to talk as if they had to do something in particular to be considered a good wife and mother.

That silence creates imbalances in the home. This is the asymmetry underlying the cultural debate about the “trad” lifestyle and the role of modern families, as well as the policy debate on maternity leave.

Society lectures men on duties and responsibilities. It conveys rights and freedom to women. When his father is sacrificed for his family, he gets praise. When her mother does the same, she is told to prioritize self-care. Because “whole” women probably create better parents.

Even when women abandon their families, the media often envelops the story in a language of empowerment. A woman who drinks Chardonnay on Wednesday to a decent husband and young children and sweats on Bikram yoga on Thursday is not accused. She will be celebrated. Outlet He rushes to reconstruct escape as a magnificent and brave act of self-discovery. You can't fix American families without facing gender differences. Political rights burn the energy of gender identity while ignoring more urgent issues. How men and women work at home.

Many successful men are married to earning women. However, there is no culture that teaches that women should support both grown men and their children. That's why women tend to seek partners that earn more. US census data confirm this: Female doctors often get married within their profession. Meanwhile, the male doctor marries a nurse and a teacher.

Conservative women misunderstand the men they complain. Most are not hostile to women in the workforce. They are not interested in marrying women who treat work as their top priority. They want wives who put their family first – because they do.

Even those who claim that women can “get everything” admit that they can't get it all at once. You can't spend 70 hours a week in the office and as a home mother you can't exist for your child.

Men make that trade-off as we are expected to offer. That's why we don't feel frustrated when mom receives her first embrace when she graduates. However, all career-driven women outsource the role of maternality must answer one tough question. Is she happy that the nanny will win the moment?