New Book on Navigating Divorce by Raisa Terkeurst
Raisa Terkeurst, a bestselling author, has faced her share of heartbreak. After nearly three decades of marriage followed by the unexpected loss of her spouse, she found herself grappling with the question: “What does it mean to be a Christian woman going through a divorce?” In her reflections, Raisa recognized she wasn’t alone in her struggles. According to USA Today, divorce impacts many, with 41% of first marriages ending in separation and an increase in divorces among those in their 50s. For some, the end of a marriage raises doubts about God’s love. To support those in similar situations, Raisa collaborates with therapists and theologians, aiming to provide comfort and guidance. Her upcoming book, “Surviving an Unwanted Divorce: A Practical Biblical Guide to Embrace Yourself and Let Go” (Nelson Books, November 11, 2025), offers a compassionate perspective for those facing such challenges. Alongside co-authors Jim Kress and Joel Mudamal, Raisa shares insights from her own journey through divorce.
pedestrian crossing: So, Raisa, can you explain how this book came to be?
Raisa Terkeurst: Honestly, I probably wouldn’t have pursued this project on my own. It felt necessary to explore Biblical teachings about divorce. While I’m capable of delving into scriptures, I never felt confident enough to discuss these topics deeply, particularly since Dr. Joel plays a significant role in this project. The therapeutic perspective is crucial here. I mean, I’m clear in my thoughts, but I’m not a therapist. Partnering with Jim Kress has added invaluable insight. I think, ultimately, having Joel and Jim was so important because we co-host a podcast called “Therapy and Theology.” Together, we blend personal experiences, therapeutic insights, and theological depth, which has been really effective.
CW: Dr. Joel, what has it been like collaborating with Raisa?
DJ: This project is special to me since I’ve known Raisa for over a decade now. We’ve formed a real friendship outside of our professional interactions. So, writing this book together felt very natural to us.
CW: Should those who haven’t gone through a divorce consider reading this book?
LT: Well, you might find yourself in a situation where friends or family are dealing with divorce issues. It’s essential to understand that many people face difficulties in their marriages, but there’s a significant difference between just having a tough time and being in a truly destructive situation. This book aims to clarify Biblical perspectives on divorce, which is vital for having considerate conversations with loved ones. I think this resource could be very beneficial for anyone, including those who haven’t experienced divorce directly.
CW: How does this book differ from your past works?
LT: Honestly, I probably wanted to write this book the least. I didn’t want to revisit the pain, sadness, and shock that came with my experience. I’ve grappled with this topic a lot. The truth, as revealed in Genesis 50:20, is that although harm was intended, God has a plan for good. Observing the current church landscape, I see that many women my age are stepping away, especially if they’re undergoing relationship struggles or unwanted divorces. Unfortunately, the Bible is often wielded as a weapon, causing further hurt.
CW: Can you help me navigate the more difficult emotions related to divorce?
LT: Support from other Christians is crucial. Comments like “there are two sides to every story” can be incredibly painful. It’s not just a spectator sport; we shouldn’t pick sides. There are families in real pain, and we should focus on offering help where it’s needed. If I must endure this, I want to see it serve a greater purpose. This book is special because of the contributions from Joel and Jim, who are committed to addressing this topic when many others hesitate to do so. I felt it was vital to share this message with those who need it.
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First publication date is November 21, 2025.
