Dear Abby: Concerns Over Table Manners
A reader shares an experience from a dinner with friends at a fancy restaurant. While enjoying the meal and conversation, her husband quietly pointed out a woman at a nearby table who was brushing her teeth. Initially, the reader thought she was just using toothpicks. But no, she was actively using a full-sized toothbrush.
After a minute or so, the woman put the toothbrush away and took out a denture container, proceeding to adjust her retainer. This left the couple quite surprised. The reader remarked that she had never encountered such a lack of etiquette before, and although they probably shouldn’t have stared, it felt like an impossible moment to look away.
She wonders: what’s happening to our society?
Abby responds, acknowledging the shock but emphasizes that the woman’s behavior shouldn’t be attributed to society as a whole. Etiquette suggests that personal hygiene should be attended to away from the dining table, especially in public, as a courtesy to others.
Dear Abby: A Marriage in Decline
Another reader reflects on her marriage, which has spanned over 30 years. In the beginning, every reunion after a long day was filled with joy and affection. However, with three children and grandchildren now, the spark seems to have dimmed. They want to reconnect but feel sad about their current state.
The couple hardly interacts anymore and struggles to remember the last time they truly laughed together. The reader, who is semi-disabled, misses the activities they once enjoyed and worries if they’re destined for a joyless existence together. With their youngest being 8 years old and their youngest grandchild just 5, she wonders if there’s any hope left for their marriage.
Abby’s reply highlights their enduring love for each other. She suggests that couples counseling could be beneficial, noting that marriage requires more than just excitement and affection; it’s about nurturing a deep partnership. Although the thrill of early romance may fade, there remains a pathway back to connection.
