The bride Reddit I started whining about my pregnant sister (who was also a bridesmaid) after she asked if we could reschedule her wedding.
“My sister Ella and I have always been close since we were little, even though she is three years older,” she explained at the forum. “We've always been best friends, and I'm her bridesmaid and she's my bridesmaid.
“Ella is currently five months pregnant. The first half of pregnancy was difficult, I was throwing up three to four times a day and was constantly tired. There were days when I literally couldn't get out of bed. It was so bad that I only realised I was pregnant in the first month.”
“I know she has a hormonal imbalance, but that's no excuse for her to be mean.”
OP and her fiance had originally set a wedding date for July, but became concerned when she began to feel unwell and decided to reschedule the wedding until after the first trimester (when, according to her doctor, she was supposed to recover).
“I should add that no one asked us to do this, but I felt it was necessary,” the bride said. “And thankfully she has recovered. She's eating normally, going out and doing well again.”
“After seeing this, my fiancé and I had re-discussed our wedding. I had always wanted a summer beach wedding but didn't want to wait a year, and after looking at photos of winter weddings I had grown to love them so we decided to have a December wedding,” she continued.
“The invites were finalized last week along with the date and were all sent out a few days ago (yes, it's early but we all have big families/lots of friends and colleagues so we need responses early). Yesterday I got an angry call from my sister asking why I was doing this.”
The woman said she was “honestly confused” and had told her sister about it, but her sister lashed out, saying it was inconsiderate of her to wait until her nephew was born, that it must be difficult to act as a gestational surrogate when eight months pregnant, and that she had already “been through hell.”
She calmly explained to her sister that, although she was indeed a bridesmaid, she didn't expect “anything less.”
“My best friend and her girlfriend had already planned a girls' night out when my wedding was in July so I'm planning on doing that again this time (everything already purchased and organised by my best friend),” she shared.
“My husband and I have rebooked everything ourselves (we will be using friends who have their own shops/businesses for flowers, venue and catering) and I've told her I will even pay for her dress to be resized to fit her belly. I'm also doing hair and makeup for the whole wedding party, and we're kind of pampering each other by having us all get ready and take photos together.”
All that is being asked of her is that she attend, but she has had no qualms about it and is asking to reschedule it again until next summer.
The bride steadfastly refuses, but her parents are urging her to reconsider.
“I told her I understand she is emotional and hormonal, but that is no excuse for being mean,” the poster said.
“I would be grateful for your comments and advice.”
