I'm a 31 year old male. I am engaged to the love of my life, a woman with whom I am looking forward to building a family. I have a rewarding job. On top of all this, Donald Trump will be inaugurated in less than seven weeks. For the first time in 10 years, I am optimistic about the future.
I was once transgender as well.
There are no rights that ordinary citizens have that transgender people don't have. What they want is the right to a bonus. They want to force society as a whole to authenticate their desired identity.
Specifically, I am an MtFtM detransitioner. So, I was born male, experienced severe gender dysphoria, decided I needed to live as a woman, transitioned, realized this wasn't the “solution” I thought it was, and detransitioned. And then I returned to my life as a man.
The hard truth about migration
Based on my experience with hormone therapy, facial feminization surgery, breast implants, and extensive research, here are some things I think men with gender dysphoria should consider before transitioning.
- Just because someone uses her to introduce you doesn't mean you've gotten through to them.
- Only a small number of men have the ability to pass, and even most of these cases require surgery.
- Hormone replacement has real long-term health effects, including but not limited to infertility and a significantly increased risk of testicular cancer.
- Not transitioning doesn't necessarily mean your life will end. From a review of the best evidence, it is not clear whether migration improves chances.
- The cause of your discomfort is almost certainly a paraphilia called autogynephilia. This is not a value judgment. That's why I transitioned, and I don't necessarily feel like the sleazy caricature that many transgender critics highlight…
- …But that’s a paraphilia. This is not an innate female psychology, nor is it a sense of being a woman mentally. It is a desire born out of love/attraction towards women. This is worth knowing.
- You become more concerned about how others see you, which is very unhealthy. You'll become paranoid about whether someone is timing you, whether someone is evaluating you.
- This is because your new identity is based entirely on perception and social approval, whereas your gender is a physical fact and therefore independent of perception.
- If you are one of the majority of transgender men who are motivated by autogynephilia, undergoing genital surgery may destroy your desire to live as a woman. Then you have to choose between continuing to pretend or admitting that you've made a mistake so big it's almost unimaginable.
These facts must be part of a valid informed consent process to receive transitional treatment. But they aren't, so it's on me to share them.
Autogynephilia: The third rail of trans ideology
The most accurate explanation we have of the causes of male gender dysphoria and desire to change gender comes from the research of Ray Blanchard. He identifies two different etiologies of MtF's desire to transition.
The first type is homosexual transsexuals. They exhibit female-typical behaviors and preferences from an early age, tend to be younger, and exhibit changes toward the female average in many physical and psychological characteristics. This is probably due to insufficient prenatal virilization.
They are shorter, have a more naturally feminine physique, have female-typical finger proportions, have brain fMRI results shifted toward the female cluster, have female-typical violent crime rates, and You will have hobbies and interests that are typical of women. The transition to HSTS is primarily made to attract more masculine male partners than homosexual men. Many people are very enthusiastic about the idea of having a straight boyfriend.
The second type is autogynefil. These are heterosexual men with cognitive traits that make them internalize their sexuality. They are attracted to women, but because it's directed at them, they find male bodies ugly, have female bodies, wear female clothes, and play traditionally feminine roles. I get excited and satisfied by thinking about fulfilling my goals.
Despite their sexual orientation being heterosexual (they are not aroused by pictures of naked men when measured in a laboratory setting), they engage with men to fulfill their desire to occupy a female sexual role. We may have sex. Sometimes they even get married. However, they do not exhibit any natural feminization like HSTS.
They have male-typical brain scans, male-typical height and finger proportions, male-typical (or worse) crime levels, and male-typical interests. They have significantly higher rates of autism and personality disorders, and higher average IQs.
“Trans women are women” and other lies
Activists leading the trans movement tend to be men with AGP. So what do they mean when they use the phrase “trans women are women”? They know they are literally not women. Woman in what sense? I'm a detransitioner and I still don't see how this statement is true.
They are not physically women, nor have they changed psychologically into women. People confidently say things like “gender is a social construct'' as if it was proven in some laboratory. In reality, this is just what some feminist writers have said. It has as much scientific weight as poetry.
If you try to figure out what this means, you'll find a lot of stereotypes about gender roles that the same activists would reject in other contexts. Gender is a stereotype, but trans women are not obligated to be feminine either. There is no coherent intellectual core.
They develop their arguments cynically and feel no need to be consistent or provide evidence for their claims.
And what is this movement fighting for? There are no rights that ordinary citizens have that transgender people don't have. What they want is the right to a bonus. They want to force society as a whole to authenticate their desired identity.
How I cured dysphoria
Does the significant increase in the rate of transition in recent years indicate that society is becoming more enlightened and aware?
Or do they rather highlight the fact that people have successfully coped with gender dysphoria for thousands of years? At least people have coped well without requiring us to overturn science, law, and truth to accommodate them.
I think it's the latter. Because I used to have severe discomfort and I found a way to stop it.
I felt terribly ugly about myself, hated that I was a man, avoided mirrors, and didn't like sex, male roles, or thinking of myself as a man. I finally fixed it like this:
- I accepted the Blanchard model and understood that the root of my discomfort was my self-feminizing tendencies. My attraction to women was internalized. I felt like I couldn't love myself as a man.
- Dealing with childhood sexual trauma that caused her to hate men and, by extension, herself.
- Learn not to think about it too much.
We must shape humans, not transform them
When I look back at the madness of progressivism, I think it's clear that trans issues have destroyed the left more than anything else. When respectable institutions lie so blatantly, we begin to wonder what else they were lying about.
According to some studies, the average IQ of all groups of transsexuals is well above average. It seems like a bad idea to encourage high IQ people to be sterilized by physical and chemical mutilation. Discomfort should be seen as a challenge to be overcome, rather than a core identity in life.
We have to find better ways to help people who suffer from discomfort. The world needs more capable and confident men. Most of the traits classified as “toxic masculinity” are actually underdeveloped masculinity. Being bitter, entitled, cruel, disrespectful, and vindictive are not male characteristics. They are the characteristics of people who have never been able to become truly human.
Gender ideologies are often used by men who are struggling to achieve mature, healthy masculinity because their struggles are a sign of the need to renounce their manhood and medically modify themselves. I will tell you that there is. We are taught that if this does not improve our lives, it is because of society's intolerance. It teaches them to externalize their locus of control.
If it was intentionally designed to exacerbate mental illness, it would be impossible to do so more effectively than it currently does.
Even the most extensive and persuasive interventions will not be able to turn trans women into women. All they can do is turn him away from male virtue. Ideologies that encourage such transformations do grave harm to both the people they purport to support and the societies they increasingly demand unhealthy “acceptance” from.
