A woman who is getting married in December asked on Reddit whether she was wrong to be frustrated with one of her bridesmaids and her complaints.
On the “r/Wedding” subreddit, the user explained that the bridesmaids had been complaining about her bachelorette trip for weeks.
“She would have to travel, but I picked a location that most of the girls could drive to,” the Reddit user wrote. “When you add in travel expenses and her Airbnb expenses, her total cost was about $300.”
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The bride continued: “She’s been complaining lately about not having any money because I’m single. [party] And she said she doesn't want to spend a lot of money and needs to stay on a budget for her bachelorette weekend.”
According to the Reddit poster, bridesmaids had repeatedly complained about the cost of the trip. (iStock)
The bride pointed out that when the tables were turned, she paid $700 for airfare and $300 for a hotel because her bridesmaids' bachelorette parties were going to the same destination.
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“I understand that not everyone is in the same financial situation, but I'm frustrated that I spent over $1,000 on her bachelorette party and now $300 from my bachelorette party is being questioned,” she said.
“Am I wrong to feel this way?” the question was posed, after which Reddit users responded in the comments section.
The bride (not pictured) told us that her bridesmaid (also not pictured) spent a pretty penny on her bachelorette trip when she got married. (iStock)
Many people expressed understanding of the bride's position, with one saying: “Your feelings are valid. You are the bride and should have the right to choose the location of your bachelorette party.”
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Another user agreed, writing, “Your friend needs to keep their expectations in check considering how much money you spent supporting them that day.”
A Reddit user He disagrees with others and says, “When you do something for someone, don't expect them to do something for you.”
“Saying 'yes' resentfully just so you feel you have to say yes in the future is a really toxic relationship attitude,” the user added.
One bride (not pictured) took to Reddit to ask whether she was wrong to talk back to a complaining bridesmaid (also not pictured). (iStock)
Another Reddit user agreed, saying, “No matter how much you spend on her, you don't know your friend's financial situation. If it's really hard on her, it's wrong to expect her to spend money she doesn't have. You should talk to her as a friend, not as a bride.”
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Rosalinda Randall, a California-based etiquette expert, told Fox News Digital that it's not wrong for a bride to be annoyed or feel a little insulted.
“Asking the bride to consider other options to fit into the bridesmaids' budget is crossing the line of friendship,” she says. “If $300 isn't in your budget, be honest and say so.”
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However, Randall also said it's not a good idea for brides to compare the two bachelorette party trips.
Etiquette experts have weighed in on the matter, offering advice to brides on how to maintain friendships. (iStock)
“Comparing and keeping track of who spends how much is never good for relationships,” Randall says.
“Confronting her about it now will only make the bridesmaid feel inferior and it may seem like you, the bride, are expecting retaliation,” she added.
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Randall said the bride told her bridesmaids that she would be lonely if they didn't make the trip and encouraged the couple to plan something local to celebrate her upcoming nuptials together.
Fox News Digital has reached out to the Reddit user for comment.
